I told my roommate she needs to replace the expensive cookware she ruined after I repeatedly asked her not to use metal utensils on it. She says I’m being dramatic and that it was ‘just pans,’ but they were a gift from my parents and not cheap. Am I the asshole for insisting she pay for the damage?
NTA. Just be prepared for them to somehow turn it into you being the problem if they’re calling you dramatic rather than own up to it.
What kind of remorseless person is she. Horrible roommate for sure.
You warned her, she broke it, she should replace it, pretty simple
NTA. This is a classic ‘she broke it, she buys it’. She had no right to use them at all. much less to ruin them. If you have to force the issue tell her you will be withholding rent or bill monies to the value of the pans.
NTA. You warned her not to use them, and they were expensive and meaningful. It’s reasonable to ask her to replace them.
If it’s “just pans” then what is the problem with replacing them?
No, she’s just a cheap asshole. Make her pay. NTA
NTA but PLEASE do yourself a favour and invest in good stainless steel, carbon steel or cast iron cookware and please spend some time failing and learning to cook on it. Non stick cookware is terrible for your body and if you’re young you can avoid the lifelong cancerous effects by reducing your usage. Its worth the investment and the 10 meals you might screw up cooking while learning to use the new cookware.
You will still own this cookware 10 years later, no matter how hard roommates scrape it.
Nta. She’s a cheapskate and she was warned. She might never pay you back though. If it’s just a pan, then she can afford to replace it.
NTA
You warned her, she disregarded it and broke your stuff.
NTA. She broke it, she pays for it, very simple.
About 18 years ago my sister ruined an expensive nonstick pan and my chefs knife, she scratched the pan and burnt the handle of the knife. I still haven’t really forgiven her because she never apologised or replaced the damaged items.
She has ruined the pans and any relationship you may have had.
NTA, you break it you bought it
NTA
You shouldn’t even have to ask. She ruined your stuff, she should replace it. Why is it even a question?
NTA – if it’s “just pans” she should have no trouble replacing them.