About a month ago my sister and I moved to a different house. For a little context, we live together but she has 2 kids and for the most part, my belongings are in my room and the rest is hers. My sister has really bad ADHD and tried to pack early but as the days got closer she just dropped the ball. So to try and help things going, I ordered a u-haul and planned for me friends to come and help move everything. I reserved the van for 3 days. She told me she would pack up the van with stuff from the garage on friday night so on saturday morning we could unload it first thing.
Moving day came and she had packed the living room and half her bedroom and none of the garage. My friends graciously helped for about 5 hours and got everything except the kitchen and the garage. My sister was smoking with her friend in her daughters room for at least 2 hours of this. I was really frustrated at this point and went out with my friends for drinks and left my sister to deal with the rest.
Well she ended up not getting things done and ended up needing to keep the van for two extra days. And I felt that it was right that she paid for those two extra days as it wasn’t cheap. She got really upset with me and starting shouting at me when I told her this. And its been awhile now and I’m not sure if what I did was the right thing. So reddit, AITA?
Nta. She took the extra time so she needs to pay for it.
NTA. you paid for 3 days. she needed it longer so she can pay for the other days. what was she even shouting about?
NTA
ADHD doesn’t magically grant you a pass in costing someone money.
the ADHD tax is for them to pay
She is to blame, she needs to pay. Teach her an expensive lesson b
NTA, but she sounds like a train wreck and I would recommend getting your own place when possible.
Trainwreck is accurate. I don’t try to intrude on her decisions and life but when it includes me, man, its difficult
“My sister was smoking with her friend in her daughter’s room for at least 2 hours of this.”
That’s disgusting.
Your sister is a trash person. Why are you choosing to live with her?
I have personal reasons for why I needed to. But I am looking to leave asap. I love her with all my heart and really want the best for her but I don’t agree with a lot of her decisions
Smoking inside the house is dirty.
Smoking inside a child’s bedroom is DISGUSTING.
Get your money for the van, I don’t care, it doesn’t matter. Get out of there as quickly as possible. And call Child Protective Services on the way out, if not before.
Nta. Sue caused you to need the van. She can pay for it
NTA.
ADHD sucks, but after a certain point, you have to take accountability for your actions, which your sister certainly doesn’t seem to do.
What I will say, (and correct me if I’m wrong) is that there wasn’t communication regarding the splitting of the cost of renting the van until after the fact, which is something you could have done better, though I don’t necessarily think you were “in the wrong” in any way.