so, me and my brother are both in high school and for privacy since we’re minors I won’t say what age. My brother is two years older than me but mentally he’s 10 years younger. He’s the most horrible and antagonistic person I think I’ve ever met and he thinks it’s the funniest thing. (\*he’s on the spectrum somewhere)
to get to my problem, recently, I’ve found out my brother has been stealing my jewellery. Over the past six months I’ve noticed a few bracelets go missing but thought I’ve just misplaced them. About two months ago I went into his room and in a jar on his windowsill covered by his curtain was a jar full of the jewellery I thought I had ‘misplaced’. I got really angry and ignored his protests and took my jewellery back. Today, I got out of the car and my brother was wearing one of my evil eye necklaces I thought I had lost. Turns out, he’s been going in my room when I’m at our mums house and going through my drawers and taking my jewellery. I got really mad and told him it’s mine and to give it back but he refused and said it wasn’t mine. I got really angry and equally sad because this has been going on for months maybe even more and neither of my parents have done anything at all to solve it or even punish him.
my parents are acting like they don’t care and my mum keeps on saying she’ll get it back when I know she won’t she’s just trying to make me not get any more angrier. The thing is, if I took something of my brothers and did the same thing, I’d be shouted at like mad and forced to give it back. Me asking if I’m the a-hole might seem attention seeking because obviously you’ll get mad if someone takes your stuff, but he’s on the spectrum and it’s not like he can’t control himself because he can but one of my friends have said I ‘shouldn’t be so harsh on him he can’t help it’. Aita???
nah, you’re not the a-hole for getting mad. doesn’t matter if he’s on the spectrum, stealing is stealing. your parents need to step up. spectrum isn’t a free pass.
NAH. Does he have any jewelry of his own? It doesn’t sound like he’s taking these things out of spite. If he’s wearing them it sounds like he just wants jewelry.
Maybe you can ask your parents for a locked jewelry box. Ask your parents to buy him his own jewelry. If you’re willing you could also consider gifting him jewelry that you don’t wear/ aren’t attached to.
You’re not the ah for being angry, but being angry isn’t going to solve the problem.
he doesn’t wear them at all and he does have a few bracelets and rings of his own. I’ll deffo look into a locked box!! thank u!
I stopped reading at “me and my brother”. Doesn’t anyone understand the use of 30 use proper grammer any more.
thanks cause I was wondering❤️🩹
For future reference when youre talking about yourself and someone else, you go last. And you use I/me as if your brother was being left out of the sentence.
A+ post. What do you mean with this grammatical diarrhea “Doesn’t anyone understand the use of 30 use proper grammer any more. “?
NTA. I’d get a lock for my door, and a lockbox for your jewelry, money, anything else important. I’d tell him if he steals from you again, you will call the police… then do it. Your parents are AHs for letting him get away with this. Just because he is on the spectrum does not mean he doesn’t know right from wrong, and shouldn’t have consequences. You should talk to a teacher or guidance counselor at school about what is going on, at least for support. Hugs
You’re not the AH for being mad , but I think it should not be directed towards your brother coz I think it’s honestly not his intention & he might not understand what he’s doing is hurting you , he probably thinks he picked up something he likes – BUT your parents lowk failed at making you feel important, your feeling are imp too it’s their job to do something about it since you’re minors & clearly you as a child can’t help him understand as good as your parents could . Try talking to your parents <3
Ask him why he is he taking your stuff? Answer might surprise you…
NTA. Your parents are hurting your brother by allowing him to do this. Seems he understands this is wrong. Can you put a lock on your bedroom door? Get a small safe for valuables in your room. Or move full time to your mum’s? There isn’t much you can do as long as your parents allow him to steal.
NTA. being on the spectrum doesnt mean you can just get away with stealing — OP i suggest getting a locked box or smth to make sure this doesn’t happen again since it seems like your parents arent gonna do anything abt it
NTA Be mad. He has no right to take what you have. I’m sick of people making excuses for bad behavior.