i 22m, and my partner 21nb, met online 6 months ago. we usually use discord to communicate because having a server is fun and it makes it easier for us to play games together. lately i have told them that i am stepping away from social media for my own safety (i have a stalker that they are aware of). the first time i mentioned it they just said okay and went back to using discord, and then got upset at my lack of response even though i was texting them. The second time i mentioned it (yesterday) their only response was “that’s chill. when will you be back?” now. obviously i wasn’t expecting a pity party or anything but they didn’t even ask if i was okay and now they are barely talking to me. this whole situation is so frustrating and i want to say something so bad but i also don’t want to make an issue out of something that could potentially be nothing. so AITA for being bothered by this?
Are you and your partner long distance? If so, they won’t text with you because your their side piece and they don’t want to risk their main partner seeing yalls communications in their text history.
yes we are long distance but i am 99.9% sure they are faithful and we have both talked about our past experiences with cheating partners and how cheating makes us feel. i do kind of see where your suggestion comes from but i truly don’t think that’s the case 🙂↕️
Oh my sweet summer child. There’s a reason you’re being kept to Discord, and it’s not because you’re the only one.
Did you explicitly say you wanted to text outside of discord? Maybe they intepreted this as your way of ghosting them.
i believe i was very clear abt it honestly. we already had each others numbers and i said lets text instead and i gave them a clear reason (stalker that they are aware of) so i figured they understood.
Did you text them? Did they respond?
we have been texting but its just less than what i would consider normal for us.
Maybe they find typing on a phone through text more annoying/time consuming than typing a chat on a keyboard. Perhaps you should look into another platform.
seems objectively weird.
Light YTA: You are kinda shit at communicating. Why can’t you just say, *”Hey, I am shutting down my Discord account. Can we move our chats to WhatsApp or text instead?”*
hey so i actually said that in the post 🙂↕️ hope that helps
No, you really didn’t. You gave a vague *”I am stepping away from social media”* and assumed they knew what you meant.
Nothing in your post provides any information on how long you are stepping away for or which platforms would work best for communicating with them going forward. You don’t even clarify that you consider Discord a social media site and will be limiting messages through that platform.
That is why I said you are shit at communication.
i explained to my partner why and we both considered discord social media. i also actually let u guys in on Why im stepping away but its not something i can/want to get into too much because it is a legal case
(also the “hope that helps” was harsh and i apologize for that)