So my cousin who I am kind of close to and like grew up together is taking some of her friends and another one of our cousins somewhere. I overhear them and ask if they have space for me. Then they say no we probably don’t. Then I get upset and say that I’m like your family and I’m the child of you dads brother. She said you’re not acting like it. So then I get emotional and cry. It didn’t help I told my mom who made everything worse and like said to me in front of her to take my car. Which made me feel even more cringed out ngl. Cause my mom was involving herself in a 25 year olds situation lol. But I feel like I’m acting entitled to having a ride aren’t I. Atm I felt emotional and upset. But tbh my vibes are probably rancid and she just doesn’t like me. And I kinda need to get the memo. But was I overreacting in getting upset over the fact she doesn’t have space for me. Also she in front of my face said we have space for my other cousin. So that made me even more upset. Wdy all think?
Grow up
What a tiny, microscopic thing to care about.
I think you need to move on, it might have been hurtful to feel left out but no need to kick off about it with ‘i’m like your family’ comments and then crying and then telling your mum. I mean, you said yourself, you’re 25, and tbh, yeah those vibes just aren’t really it. Time to get over it I’m afraid.
You say you’re 25? Hmm. In any case, YTA. You know why.
Ummmm, what did I just read?
Firstly, you don’t even know where they were going, and you got upset that they didn’t have room. Then you got your mom involved after you cried? Did I read that you said you were 25?
Please tell me this story is a made up story.
So you felt entitled to a ride to something you weren’t even invited to, and threw a fit when they said no? YTA
YTA you don’t get to cut in after other people had already been offered lifts, at 25 you really need to grow up
If a group wants you to join them, they’ll invite you. If they say they probably don’t have room, that’s a pretty clear indication that you aren’t invited. Maybe it’s because they really don’t have room. Maybe not. But freaking out about it is only going to make things worse. If your cousin doesn’t like you, whether it’s your fault or hers or both, you can’t force a relationship.
YTA You’re inserting yourself into a trip that you seemingly had no role in, before forcibly inserting yourself into it. And your mom’s right. If you want to go that bad, bring your own car. And you throwing such a tantrum about this further justifies why they may not want you to come along. If you act like this over not being able to insert yourself into an outing, what else will you throw a tantrum over?
Family has nothing to do with this. You’re just showing yourself to be entitled and childish.
YTA, are you sure you’re 25?
Definitely not 25. I’m 23 and haven’t typed/spoken like that since high school
YTA. It’s her car which means it’s her decision as to who rides in it. If you had asked and accepted her answer my vote would be different. It’s the acting like a 2yo when you didn’t like the answer that made you TA.
Anybody else have the feeling that this is a 14 y.o. who’s pretty sure this is the way adults act? All those rancid vibes and all that crying.
No, sweetie, it’s not. YTA
Youre not really acting like a 25yo
YTA. You were told they probably didn’t have space for you and you, presumably 25 years old, throw a hissy fit that also involves your mother? You sound extremely emotionally immature. Have you considered therapy?