I (16F) have an older trans sister (21) who is depressed and almost attempted recently. I have a friend (apple 16F) who recently broke up with her boyfriend (banana 16M). I know a little bit of what he was going through but I knew that he was struggling a lot mentally, and did some bad things to himself. It was easy to sympathize with him for me because of my older sister and some of the similar things she is going through. My friend apple didn’t really tell me what was going on when they broke up, which I understand.
Banana sits with me and my other friend during a free period, he was acting completely normal with us during the time they were breaking up, and neither me or my friend really made an attempt to be distant with him considering he’s our friend’s ex. Knowing everything he was going through, I let him sit with us and was friendly with him because I also knew he didn’t really have any friends in that class either. I asked if this was okay with my friend Apple, and she said it was okay and he holds me and my friend to high regard.
Since this is a free period, we made a gc with my friend, me and banana, to tell each other where we would be sitting during the period. We didn’t talk about anything else besides that either. Recently, Apple told me she wasn’t comfortable with me sitting with him. I decided to impulsively tell him he couldn’t sit with us anymore and said things like "i’m sorry, it was easy for me to talk to you and I don’t hate you, because like I said I don’t know anything that happened between you guys." And i sent him the message, and they Apple and my best friend both thought I was trying to be shady. However, I meant it like "it was easy for me to be okay with him, because I didn’t know what happened". To me, he’s only an acquaintance since I know nothing about him, and he knows nothing about me, but I told him I couldn’t be his friend anymore, not acquaintance, because I don’t know how he saw me, and I didn’t want to make him feel worse by calling him an acquaintance. When I sent that text saying that I had to cut him off, I tried my best to be nice to him cause I honestly just felt really bad for him and bad about the situation.
For further context, I like a completely different guy and I play video games with him all the time, so I was really not trying to do anything weird with my friend’s ex, I was just trying to be nice to him since I knew he was already struggling. I am also not invalidating what my friend Apple went through, because I know banana put her through a lot, which she told me later on, and I am glad for her that she broke up with him. Anyways, my best friend dropped me because she thought I was being "unloyal", but I was just trying to be nice because I could sympathize with him due to my own experiences. I am also on good terms with Apple, as I explained everything to her, and she believes me, but my best friend still doesn’t and thinks I’m just trying to defend myself.