Firstly, please excuse my grammar mistakes (if there are any) because English is not my first language.
We’re a working class family and I totally understand that my parents work their asses off and that they have every right to be overwhelmed and be irritated. But I don’t think it’s fair about my father needs to have a manchild outburst just because dinner was cold and not hot and ready to serve. I also overheard my father saying something along the line,"When have I ever said no to doing something for them?" to my mom. Like bro take a chill pill,sorry that we said no to doing this or that when you literally said we can just say no instead of doing it with a frown. And I don’t understand their logic, my mom would say things like,"You weren’t born by choice" but I don’t think she knows how to use that. (We know we didn’t choose to be born, that’s why we hate our lives) Instead of saying that to side with us and understand us, she would say it to guilt trip us into doing what they want us to do. They also think that their such a big shot for ‘raising us right’. I guess they did, they raised us to be kind, have good manners and be humble to others.But while they think their doing such good job at raising us, how is it that me and none of my siblings want to move far far away from them as soon as we can?But I guess at the end of the day, I don’t get a say in anything of the things in my life even though they said I do.
My father almost never said no to us… we were trained from an early age never to ask for any help. He did drive me to school once, in 1982.
You are NTA, of course. I am very sympathetic with your feelings, just wanted to note that older people were mostly growing in very same environment, so nobody taught them how to live different life and how to have different relationship with their kids. I wish you to grow better person breaking this evil circle of ignorance and rudeness with your future kids. Best luck and have a great holiday time
I will break this circle,and happy holiday to you too.