My boyfriend is extremely wealthy, but he’s honestly very emotionally unavailable and not very present. I don’t get much verbal reassurance, affection, or effort in our connection. Because of that, I’ve started feeling like things like flowers, small gifts, or tangible gestures of care would at least help me feel seen and valued as a compromise. In the first two months of the relationship, he used to send flowers weekly, and treat me nicely. He used to tell me that he’s not good at expressing otherwise, so I understood his material gestures as an expression of love. Now, he stopped putting in effort completely. I’m not asking for luxury or excess, just some indication that he’s thinking of me. Am I being materialistic for wanting that, or is it reasonable given the lack of emotional presence?
Why not leave him to find someone who actually shows you they care?
Probably because he’s rich?
So you’re willing to accept “things”instead of emotional connection because he’s rich? Would you be asking this if he weren’t rich? Yes, YTA.
YTA Expecting things instead of connection is a cop out. If he wont put in any effort you should break up instead of wanting him to buy you things.
How about finding a boyfriend who will actually fulfill your needs instead of trying to compensate it with things like gifts and flowers? How long will that keep you happy?
NTA for wanting him to show he cares about you in the way he originally was but Y T A to yourself if you continue this relationship
super well said
NTA. But he’s not going to provide material things, nor should you ask for them. They will not make up for his emotional unavailability. Dump him and find someone more emotionally available
You’re not the AH just because your software is programmed this way. But it will gradually weigh you down emotionally as you don’t give your soul what it requires, and no amount of material will fill that hole that will grow larger and demand more in a failed attempt to fill the void that has been created.
Instead look for a way to give your soul what it requires and you’ll see how your need/crave for material is lowering.
No amount of material will fill the void in your soul if you don’t attend your soul first.
YTA
Just leave him
YTA
Don’t trade your happiness for material possessions. It’s too valuable
YTA. You would stay in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable as long as you get gifts? Your being an AH to yourself, and materialistic
It honestly sounds like he isn’t all that into you but why would you want to date someone who is emotionally unavailable? I had a couple of wealthy boyfriends in my youth and they both conceited AHs. Weren’t even worth my time on reflection and your boyfriend sounds like he isn’t, either.
NTA Dump him.