I have a tandem parking spot for more apartment. The other day, I came home to find someone in the inner spot of the tandem. when I tried to call a tow for the car, the tow company said they need authorisation from the complex manager, but it was a Sunday, so he wasn’t in office. so I parked in the other spot, blocking the other car in.
When I went to head to work the next day I found my car heavily keyed. Despite the complex manager advising against it, and not wanting to tow the car, I called the cops to report the vandalism and they made the property manager tow the car that was in my spot.
Today, i met with the complex manager, one of my neighbors (who I had never met), and her friend whose car I had towed. I was berated for towing the car and then pressing charges for the vandalism. Apparently, I caused the person whose car I had towed “undeserving stress” and I should have tried to find her and asked her to move her car instead of going the “nuclear option.” am I crazy here. am I really the asshole ?
NTA. “Undeserving stress”?!? What about the stress they caused you? You were absolutely correct to have the car towed and to press charges. Your complex needs to have an after-hours person available to manage things like this, so they’re TA too.
NTA The visitor and the other resident are the AHs, and evidently they are chummy with the manager too. Resident should have told her friend not to park in another resident’s assigned space, and guest should not have parked in a spot assigned to anyone except the friend they were visiting.
As for finding the owner of the car? Well, how were you supposed to figure out which apartment to offending parker was in? However, since you were parked in your assigned slot (if not the exact spot in the slot), they could have easily found you in your apartment the next morning. Instead they vandalized your car because they parked illegally in your assigned space? And the manager is defending THEM?!
NTA, but everyone else in this story is.
This person ‘heavily keyed’ your car and then has the gall to attack you for reporting it to police? After they parked in YOUR parking spot? And you are actually wondering if there is some possibility you may be TA?
This has to be fake. There is no way someone can actually think they are TA in this situation.
I mean I just need a reality check. When you have someone who’s yelling at you for blocking in their car and then towing it, and then having your complex manager tell you caused issues that could have been better resolved, you question if you are the one in the wrong.
Complex manager is probably just responding to the squeaky wheel. Essentially they are telling you that unless you yell at them and make their life hard, they’re siding with anyone but you.
Remember, they’re **asking** you to be an AH to them.
(Edit, tell -> yell )
You should follow up on the police report by letting them know that your complex manager called you into a meeting with the person you just reported and had them harassing you.
NTA Keying your car wasn’t going nuclear?
She couldnt try to find the rightful parking spot user (who was obviously the one who parked her in) before keying the car?
NTA, OP.
Keying your car was a nuclear response. She shouldn’t have parked in your space. The other tenant whose friend parked illegally should’ve told her where to park that wasn’t going to create a problem. She’ll definitely think twice about where she parks the next time. It’s not your job to go door to door to find the offending owner. NTA.
“Oh, I am so very sorry. The next time someone parks in my spot, I will heavily key their car instead.”
An auto shop mechanic who lived on our street dealt with an ahole parking on his driveway by lifting the offending car with a jack one corner at a time, removing the wheels, and leaving the car on blocks, with the wheels nearly stacked.
Cops made him put them back, which he did very slowly, but no-one ever parked there again.
When I was in high-school the year I became a senior they made the senior parking lot a free for all. The lot had been paid for by previous senior classes, but the new principal didnt like the concept of a senior lot.
For the senior prank the seniors pulled a single valve stem from every underclassmens car in the senior lot. The seniors in the autoshop class were filling tires and selling valve stems for a dollar.
That’s not a prank, that’s vandalism.
NTA. To me, this is like trying to defend stealing a lunch from a work refrigerator. “I didn’t know it was yours.” No, maybe not, but you knew that it wasn’t YOURS. You knew it was SOMEONE ELSE’s. They knew that they couldn’t park there.