in all the time ive lived here (6yrs) snow removal has been a non-issue but the building was sold last spring and this new guy apparently loves accumulation.
because of that i didnt own a shovel, never needed one. but we got like 15” of snow and the landlord still hasnt plowed or cleared any snow. i am not looking forward to it freezing over so i walk to the store, buy a shovel, and dig my car out. i also dig a fatty path across the parking lot so i can pull out.
i take care of a couple errands, gone maybe an hour, and this lady parks in my spot.. the only spot available yes but it’s there because of my labor. we don’t have assigned parking but we do always park in the same spots so it’s not like she doesn’t know who carved a path.
im not digging myself another parking spot. im not very altruistic. so i park behind her. i have a meeting in 15 minutes and i can’t be f’d to find out whos car this is. there are only 3 units (and 2 commercial stores downstairs but they are closed today) still i decide not to go door to door.
halfway through the meeting someone starts banging on my door. i ignore it. they don’t stop and they keep coming back every 5 or 10 minutes. when i wrap up my meeting i finally answer the door and this red faced lady is absolutely livid.
we get into and she tells me to move my f\*ing car and asking in what world was how i parked ok and going on about how long she’s been waiting. i tell her i dug that spot out myself and had nowhere to park so i had no choice.
i put my boots and coat back on and go out to move my car and my neighbor is there (i guess whoever she was visiting, i dont associate with the neighbors ever if i can help it) with his arms crossed and he lays into me too saying i should have asked them when they needed to leave so we could decide who should park in back of who and move our cars.
im just like wtf, cus maybe he could have dug his guest a space if he knew she was coming. he brings up that there is no assigned parking and that he doesn’t have a shovel anyways
whatever. it went on and on and i really don’t think i was the asshole here but my neighbor said he used to like me because i was quiet and respectful but now “he knows my true colors”
so am i the asshole here? i genuinely feel like im in the right and they need to chill out but now i think there is unnecessary bad blood between us
edit: adding it a users suggestion that the lot is gravel, but there is street parking as the front of the building is a sidewalk with 2hr spots for visitors and customers.
also i can see that we were/are all assholes and i can accept that. just a bunch of assholes being assholes in the snow because of the asshole landlord. 🍑🕳️
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NTA
Your landlord sucks and your neighbor does too. Tell him to buy a shovel or get on the landlords case too.
There are no assigned spots, so where you parked is fine too. 🤷🏼♀️
Are you the asshole? Yes. Is it justified? Absolutely.
this is fair. i can accept this.
I agree with this take as I’ve had the same thing happen to me as OP. True AH is the landlordand the snow itself.
Any time there’s a massive amount of snow and limited parking, it becomes the wild west again. I’ve witnessed some wild conflicts. Very rarely is there any obvious solution other than to stay put until the snow is removed. Otherwise it’s every man for themselves.
NTA. You could be in real trouble stealing the spot your neighbor dug out in Boston. Even if it was on the street.
yeah im in massachusetts actually and it might have been relevant because we are all (m)assholes
but i guess that answers my question too.. i am the asshole but i am also surrounded by assholes.
it comes down to etiquette of territory i guess
NTA. This witch took your space,and she and the neighbor are mad at you????? The new landlord is an AH too because he didn’t get things plowed.
NTA. The visitor should not have been parking in a tenants spot even if they are unassigned.
NTA if I was your neighbor I would have made sure my guest had somewhere to park and also scolded them for taking your spot that you dug out. Inconsiderate AF
NTA. In Chicago we have dibs. If we shovel a space it’s our space. I probably would have shoveled all of that snow back around and on their car.
>my neighbor said he used to like me because i was quiet and respectful but now “he knows my true colors”
“And now I know yours.”
You shovel it, you own it. Put a chair, road cone, trash can, whatever in the spot to claim it. Thems the rules
NTA. Everyone knows at apartment or condo that if you didn’t shovel it out, it’s not your spot. And your neighbor is a big fat baby standing outside with his arms folded while he sent his woman to your door to argue with you.