Am I 17(m) the asshole for buying a BB gun and not telling my parents. A while ago I bought a BB gun at bass pro for 100$ and had some fun w it like once and then left it on my couch under my sweater. My parents found it and put it in a safe where I couldn’t access it. I was not happy because it was fucking expensive and annoying. So I went into my mom’s room and just bent open the side of the plastic safe and grabbed it out without damaging it at all and took it out. I just left it in my car without using it and forgot about it. Then a few months later I my mom mus have noticed and searched my car and found it. She got mad and took my car for two weeks and I can’t even drive to school which is a pain because I have POTS which means I can’t walk to bike to school and I don’t know how I’m gonna get to school. I feel like a punishment is fine but the fact that can’t even drive to school is a bit much I feel like. Am I the asshole? I bought it with my own money btw and turn 18 next month.
YTA – you are living in their home, they should know if you bring a weapon in their home and have every right to say you cannot have it – especially if you left in under your sweater on a couch – thats very irresponsible – clearly you don’t have the level of maturity needed for a weapon.
If you don’t like their rules, move out when you are 18.
slightly harsh but,,, bending open the safe was the moment you lost the moral high ground. that’s not proving maturity. that’s proving exactly why they locked it up. doesn’t matter if you turn 18 next month, you’re still in their house right now.
YTA.
Its your parenst home. They get to decide if theres guns (even just a bb gun) and how it gets secured
The fact you left the gun hidden under a jacket then forgot about it, then broke into where theyd stored it shows you are not old/mature enough to own it.
Grow up.
Reading this, I’m happy not to live in the US where random teenager can complain about their mum hiding their gun…….
NTA for buying it but YTA for leaving it on the couch under a sweater. Really hope you don’t have younger siblings
There are plenty of reasons to share that purchase with your parents, you lied by omission and then snuck around and hid it again. Their first punishment was to take it, then taking your car was because you repeated the offence. Not talking to them about it and then breaking into the safe probably doesn’t give them confidence that this is only for fun and harmless. You didn’t show you could be trusted by not being honest or forthcoming. Yes, YTA for that. Being 18 doesn’t mean anything if you cannot be open and honest. Being an adult means being able to have hard conversations.
Apologize, explain your motives, and talk. Being forthcoming and honest will get much better outcomes.
YTA
Even though it’s a BB gun, a BB gun can still hurt people and break things … and apparently you aren’t mature enough or responsible enough to practice gun safety as you’ve stated yourself, by just leaving it laying around.
Then, to further prove that, you got mad about your parents putting it away responsibly and instead of talking about it with your parents, as a mature person would do, you broke into their safe and took it back then FORGOT about it in your car. So, yes, YTA.
YTA, you are a child not an adult. You live by their rules
YTA and have proven several times over you are not responsible enough to own a firearm. Your parents are correct, and I fear the day you are living on your own and can buy one for yourself with the level of irresponsibility you have displayed and your tendency to just leave them lying around.
YTA
You all can say I’m over thinking this, but hear me out. I grew up with weapons in my house. Many people in my family enjoy hunting. It’s a thing. Whatever. The point is, BB guns were treated the same as rifles. They are locked up and kept safe. As a child, I was taught to respect guns and understand their abilities as a weapon. Most of the people I know who have guns/weapons in the house know how to respect them.
I have no issue with you buying the gun. I take serious issue with you putting it under the sofa with a sweater and then just putting it in your car (that you drive to school). First, that is not how you care for a weapon (do not justify that this is just a BB gun. If that is your argument, you aren’t mature enough for a BB gun). Second, considering all of the senseless violence at schools, having anything that might be considered a weapon just “sitting” in your car, uncontrolled, unsecured, and not obviously a real weapon (some people can’t recognize the difference) is plain stupid and irresponsible.
You don’t get to drive your car now, and I am sure I am sorry. More importantly you are also a bad weapon owner who doesn’t understand the consequences and responsibilities of owning that weapon. EVEN IF it is just a BB gun.
YTA. It’s their home. I say this as a licensed, very pro-gun person. People you live with should absolutely be aware that it’s in the house, especially being their house and especially with you being 17.
YTA. The fact that you keep “forgetting it” in various places proves that your parents are doing the right thing.
YTA. If you’re gonna own any kind of gun, be responsible with it. You’re clearly not mature enough yet to be trusted with it.
Yta all around.
Buying without permission: AH
Not securing your weapon properly: AH
Stealing the weapon by breaking into a safe: AH
Putting the weapon unsecured in your car: AH
Lots of assholishness to go around. All on you.