I am the mother to 3 children (16, 14, 11 ) My youngest has an extreme allergy to certain fish so I don’t make dinners like that rarely unless my youngest is away at a sleepover. I am currently pregnant with our 4th child, and I had been really really wanting salmon. I decided I was going to make grilled salmon with garlic butter and some sides. I was extremely careful with how I did it, to make sure my youngest couldn’t be at risk. I had told my youngest I was doing this for dinner, and told him he could pick out any fast food place to eat and have it for dinner. He was very happy about this, and didn’t seem disappointed at all.
When my husband got home he was upset that I did this, he told me I shouldn’t of made this meal and it went fair to our youngest, or to the rest of the kids because they aren’t getting the same treatment as the youngest. I tried to explain he wasn’t happy and the other two are older and understand. We got into an argument and he basically finished it off that I was wrong for this, and if anything I should’ve made something else with it that he could eat instead of throwing fast food at him. AITA
Add: my older two enjoy salmon and don’t get to have it often and would have chose it over fast food.
If all the kids were happy with the arrangement then NTA.
This. If everyone was happy and actually ate dinner without bitching about something, that would be a HUGE win at my house
Agree, and it sounds like the kids didn’t have a problem with it. If the husband has an issue, going forward just let him know that he’s welcome to make a special dish for the youngest himself. I’m betting fast food comes back into the picture in a damn hurry.
NTA – you came up with a solution that works for everyone, and not only that but everyone (who was actually affected) was happy. Those who plan and make dinner get to choose dinner. Those who dont can deal with it.
And it’s ridiculous to pretend that everyone will always get the same treatment, especially with regards to an allergy that limits food choices.
I was expecting to say you’re the AH in this situation, but I changed my mind after some reflection. Everyone, it seems, is happy with this arrangement. Everyone save for your spouse. At 16 and 14, the other two kids understand perfectly why the situation is as it is. In fact, I bet the 11 yo would understand if he cared, but he seems to have been content with his fast food. Your husband made this into an issue. I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and believe that your youngest was never in any danger here. Accordingly, NTA.
I missed the part of the post where his arms and legs were broken, and he was incapable of taking them on his own trip to McDonald’s. Instead he chose to chastise a pregnant woman. What a man, what a man, what a mighty good man.
NTA but if he has such an emotional investment then maybe HE could make the two separate dinners.
OP failed to mention that her husbands arms and legs were in fact made from salmon and that’s what she and the older kids ate, hence why he wasn’t able to go out and get fast food for everyone.
This is obviously the scenario because before his pregant wife literally chewed his limbs off, this grown human would have been able to go get Maccies instead of throwing a tantrum that his 16, 14 and 11 year old children all managed to avoid, and that would be very silly indeed.
NTA.
Seems like everyone was happy until the husband came home and started a fight. Does he do this often?
If the older kids were OK with it then NTA.
Put husband in charge of meals for about 2 weeks!
Its funny how when this choice is given the second guessing stops.
Everyone was happy but the husband?
NTA
Did husband want fast food instead? Did the other kids?
If so I say screw it, make the salmon for yourself and get the rest of the family fast food if that’s what they want. Easier on you.
Edit to add: I’m pregnant and was told to eat salmon one a week and tuna once a week by my dietician. Put yourself first right now
Well if your husband has issues with your cooking, he can cook for the family instead. NTA
So you’re saying that you fed all 3 children. All were satisfied and you got to ease your pregnancy cravings.
NTA