I (27 m) let my ex girlfriends little brother (20 m) move in because I found out he was homeless. He has been staying here for the past year for free. He has constantly told me he had a job lined up and he never winds up working or actually starting the job. And he just lives here rent free. He eats the food thats in the apartment and has full access to the wifi in the house and he destroyed a blow up mattress I let him use. And he now sleeps on the couches. Last week I went on a trip out of state and while I was gone I get a text from his sister saying "my brothers been staying here and when I saw that your other ex girlfriends profile was on the xbox I almost died laughing" I proceeded to ask her what she meant and she tells me that he brought the Xbox to their house and has been using it the whole time I’ve been out of state. I confronted him about it and he said "I didn’t steal it I didn’t think I would be gone this long" he never asked for permission to take it with him and in the past when he has asked I have told him no. I told him he has 48 hours to return my property and get his stuff out of my property or I will press charges. AITA?
NTA.
Idk how many times I’m going to have to say this in this subreddit: **Do not put yourself in a situation where you become responsible for another adult**. There are many ways to help someone. Taking them in your home should NOT be one of them unless you are prepared to play parent to someone who may end up taking advantage of you. No good deed goes unpunished.
Wasn’t there someone else on here who was like, “I just took in a friend’s brother who’s an addict and has multiple felonies on his record – he won’t get a job and trashed the place! WIBTA for kicking him out?”
Why the f are you surprised??? It’s a nice sentiment to help a homeless acquaintance but, even if this person was Mother Theresa, taking them in is a whole can of worms you don’t want to deal with!
Depending on where you live, you let someone live there without a lease agreement, its hard to even evict them… NTA – but lesson learned
NTA and your problem may be solved.
NTA.
No good deed goes unpunished.
NTA. Your ex can house her brother. Leaches always find someone to attach to.
NTA. You have been way too kind.
He has a sister let her be stuck with him. It’s your house it’s your rules. Out he goes!
NTA. He took advantage of you and was dumb for not getting a job and getting starting to get his life together. Then he basically lives off you. And “borrows” your stuff.
Taking something without permission is the definition of stealing.
Tell him to return the Xbox immediately and give him appropriate notice (according to the laws where you live) of how much time he has to move out.
NTA
NTA. Like, you blew up, but also, that’s really expensive and he’s a deadbeat. Like he can’t at least sell weed or something. I get being a loser, but not a moocher.
NTA and I’m saying that as someone who was homeless in their early 20s. Maybe calling the popo on him will give him a little wake up call.
Shiftless loser does shiftless loser things.