I (56M, Korean dad) am buying two small office rooms for my children. My son will become lawyer very soon, and my daughter just returned to Korea after studying and working in US and also UK. She is starting consulting business now. Both offices are in same building.
In Korea we have these pink parking spots. They are big, wide and painted pink, and meant only for women drivers. Many building have them to make parking more easy and more safe for women, especially near entrance. Men cannot use them, they get told off fast.
Parking spaces in this building are really expensive. So I thought I buy one parking spot for my son, since he cannot use the pink spots at all, and then save money by not buying one for my daughter, because she already has access to many pink spots.
But when I told them, my daughter got annoyed. She said she doesn’t want to use the pink spots and she always avoid them, even if empty. I don’t really understand why, she never explain clear reason to me, just she doesn’t like them and doesn’t want to park there.
My son actually agrees with me and said it makes sense I buy only his parking since he has no other option. He even told his sister she is overreacting and she has more than enough parking already.
From my side it was just practical saving money. If she can park there, why I must buy extra expensive parking? It feels logical to me.
But now she say I am being unfair and treating her different, even though I really don’t understand why she refuse to use those spots.
So AITA for not buying my daughter a parking spot because she won’t use the pink women parking even though it is available to her?
Faaaaaaaaake
As a woman, I would avoid one of those spots like the plague. How offensive.
She could be resisting using the spots because they are sexist in assuming that women are bad drivers.
If she lived in the US and UK, she lived in societies that don’t distinguish parking spots by sex. Because of her spending likely years parking in the spots that everyone uses, it’s insulting now to be told “you’re a woman and therefore a bad driver, so you need to be in the bigger spot”.
If you spent significant time in the UK and US this pink spot thing seems sexist to be honest.
Hope this helps understand! 🙂
They’re designated for women, so they have a safe spot to park near the entrance so they don’t get assaulted going to/from their car.
This has nothing to do with driving ability.
This is correct they are also close to where the parking security staffs stay.
I read it as women get the pink spots because they are in a safer area for parking not because of the assumption that women are bad drivers. Honestly wish we had that in Seattle
They are bigger and it has zero to do with safety.
They would make sense if they were specifically for pregnant women.
It’s to prevent sexual harassment and assault that happens in Korea (and Taiwan and Japan). It’s unfortunately rather necessary. 🙁
Bigger means having better visibility for possible creeps hiding and better lighting. Also convenient.
They’re also right by the security office for safety.
They’re right by the building entrance for both safety and convenience.
They’re free.
Wtf does the bad driver bs stereotype have to do with safety parking for women. I swear some of you just want a chance to spew misogyny you buy into
I don’t believe this is real, but I will humor you. The pink spots are typically for elderly women and/or women who are pregnant. Not for long term parking (all day, 5 days a week). It’s basically like you purchasing/renting a handicap space for a person who is NOT handicap. Treat your daughter the same as your son, get them both a space but don’t get one and not the other. YTA.
honestly i would avoid the spot not bc its offensive but id be afraid of being targeted by someone specifically looking for a woman. having anonymity in something like that can be crucial for safety.
YTA. It sounds like your daughter finds these spots sexist—most likely she told you this and you didn’t listen. If you simply google “Korea pink parking spots” articles about how they’re sexist and being phased out show up, so I doubt you’re unaware.
So yes, you’re favoring your son. The fact that you’re using the argument that your son finds this “fair” is bs. Your behavior favors him, it’s unlikely he’d complain. Either buy both children parking spaces or neither.
YTA
Simple google search tells that pink parking spots are being removed since it’s very disputed if they make any positive effect on womens’ security.
I get the idea but realisticly they just put bigger target on you.
Also are you sure that there are enough pink parking spots for each woman that lives/uses an appartment/office there? It doesn’t seem that her parking spot is garanteed + in the future those she parking places can be removed and than what?