My younger cousin had his second kid recently. He’s only 23 and has a previous kid from a different relationship he’s not in anymore. He is not allowed to see his first kid anymore due to how he acted around his BM. He still acts the same and does the same things he did in his last relationship. I simply told him he should change his ways or this relationship could end up the same. I’m 4 years older, the oldest of the cousins and also a father.
NTA. Whether it’s technically your business or not, it sounds as though he needs someone to point out the obvious. Maybe he’ll even listen.
Thanks you, my aunt ( his mom) is calling me a shitty person for doing that. She said I don’t understand the situation he is in.
Sadly mothers often support bad behavior from their sons when it comes to their relationships. But she can explain why the way he acts is okay? If it’s bad enough to not be albe to see his child, I’m curious what the mother thinks is a legitimate excuse for that.
I kinda thought there’d be a disengaged or enabling parent somewhere in the mix
NTA. does this new baby mama know the full extent of what this guy did to be allowed 0 contact with his son? it’s pretty intense when there’s not even supervised visits.
According to him, it’s all drama. That’s as much as he tells anyone.🤦
Someone should’ve even told the new BM before she brought a baby to this world with so much hope and dreams for a nice little family, probably thinking he’ll change… now it seems like it’s a matter of time until it all comes shattering and finds out what he meant by just “drama”
NTA.
If he isn’t a father figure to his first child, why would having a second child be any different? He needs to be responsible for all his children.
From my experience, people who aren’t allowed access to their child most likely did quite a heinous thing to make that happen. What exactly did he do?
Are you right? Probably.
Did he ask your advice? Probably not.
Did he need to hear it? Probably.
Will anything change? Probably not.
NTA for calling out your cuz’ dumb behavior. Don’t hold your breath though… You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t fix stupid.
NTA. If no one calls out wrongdoing, the wrongdoing will continue and what kind of world would we live in?
NTA. You’re seeing the pattern clearly, and honestly, someone needed to say it. The fact that he’s repeating the same behavior that cost him custody of his first child is pretty telling. Your aunt defending him doesn’t change the reality that he’s setting himself up for the exact same outcome.
NTA, but it’s not going to change anything, honestly. Save your breath.