So today I called my dad an asshole to his face. This is a throwaway account because some of my family uses reddit. My dad has always been kind of an asshole and no one ever really stands up to him. He is constantly making comments to me for no reason. One time I was teasing/joking around with my brother about a hot dog from Costco (hes obsessed with Costco hotdogs) and he turned to my brother and said "don’t worry, I’ll just say something to make her cry so she’ll stop bothering you" mind you my brother was also joking around with me. Another time when i was in the fridge and couldnt find my garlic and all I said was "I can’t find my garlic im not sure if someone threw it out" (was making dinner for everyone) and he looked at me and said "what are you going to start bitching and being nasty to everyone?". I won’t lie sometimes I do get upset with an attitude but it’s usually after one of them provokes me (a story for another time). So that brings me to tonight. I was going to warm up a plate of zitti my mom had made yesterday when i noticed there was no cheese on the zitti that was left so i asked my mom "do we have any cheese?" No attitude, literally just a simple question. He turned around and said "you dont need cheese stop complaining." So i said "im not complaining all im asking is if there is any cheese" and he started a huge fight, telling me im complaining and that i have an attitude meanwhile he was the one who was being nasty. And also mind you he had just started a fight with my mother 10 minutes prior to this. He got more mad when I finally had enough and said "the only one complaining is you, you’re starting fights with everyone for no reason." And he started yelling more so I turned around and said "you’re such an asshole sometimes." So AITA or is he?
Just a little extra, whenever my dad is in a bad mood, he takes it out on everyone and is constantly starting fights with everyone in my family. He works during the night so we only see him for about 2-3 hours during the day so when hes in a bad mood we are all usually miserable for those 2-3 hours.
Just ignore him and do your own thing, go to your room or something I mean clearly the guy has anger issues and then when you are old enough move the fuck out
ESH
Explanation? Curious, thank you.
NTA . I would have said ,”I asked a question , which is not a complaint . But you are an asshole, which is my complaint”
NTA. He sounds like a miserable person.
And for anyone wondering when I say sometimes I get upset and have an attitude, it’s usually because of being pushed to that point. I’ve had my stuff broken, food that’s was made a day before thrown out while moldy chocolate milk sits in the fridge for 3 weeks, rude things said to me for no reason. And even then I usually go to be by myself to cool down and get followed and talked shit to more.
Move out
NTA for calling dad an asshole to his face. He clearly is an AH. That being said, you sound like a bit of an AH yourself. Just not in this particular instance.
From personal experience, I can say that an AH will bring it out in others over time. When you eventually move out, try not to carry it with you. Avoid spending time with friends that act that way. Try to notice when you’re being like dad. Stop yourself. Your dad will always be an AH, but you have the potential to become a mature adult.
May I ask how I sound like a bit of an asshole? I agree with what you’re saying, I’m just curious.