To set the stage…I’m at an outdoor holiday event with my husband and three young children. There’s a first come first serve seating area where there are a few spots with fire pits with couches around them. We are there early and snag one. We take up the couch and one of two chairs around the fire pit. We are enjoying ourselves for 10 minutes when out of nowhere this dude and his mom and three school aged kids pull up dining chairs from a nearby table and start roasting marshmallows around the fire pit we are sitting at. They stand in front of my husband’s seat leaving us no room. Now, I would have been more than happy to share the space had they asked or even just said hello and acknowledged us. It was so uncomfortable to me that they said nothing. I even overheard grandma ask her adult son beforehand if we said it was okay they joined us, but I didn’t catch his response. Anyway, after a few minutes I called the dad out saying how weird it was they came into our space without even saying hi and they just awkwardly laughed and said nothing which made it even weirder. I just feel like if you don’t call out peoples weird/rude behavior it just incentives/reinforces them to keep doing it, so they should feel weird about it. But my husband didnt agree with how I handled it and thought I shouldnt have said anything. Was I more in the wrong than them??? I feel a little bad but also feel like the adults were entitled assholes, but maybe my standards for others are too high lol.
YTA in more of a low key way. You think they are rude for not introducing themselves and asking if it was ok to join your fire pit, which I agree is an a hole move. But instead of just saying hi and being nice. Which will have either de escalated it and or shown them how rude they were. You instead choose to be a bit rude yourself.
NTA. It’s incredibly rude to barge in on a space that other people are already using without so much as an acknowledgement.