from this title alone you’ll assume i’m in the wrong but I promise there’s more to this story. for context, I work at a small japanese restaurant with two other servers and since it’s winter our hours have been cut so only one of us works every day besides weekends. Last weekend I called out on sunday night because I’ve been behind in classes and the restaurant had been slow enough my coworker Blue could handle it on his own. no big deal, we do this kind of stuff all the time. our weekend is monday/tuesday so no one works. fast forward to today, i’m supposed to be working alone as I do every wednesday. I’ve been struggling with BPPV or vertigo pretty badly and my co workers are aware of it. the are also aware i’m chronically ill (POTS) and sometimes struggle with bad health days. well today I had to leave my morning class due to vertigo and it ended up being so bad I had to call out of work to go to urgent care. URGENT CARE. Blue is busy on weekdays and can’t cover. My other co worker Red is the one free on weekdays. i go to ask Red to cover and he instantly pops off on me calling me immature and telling me to be an adult and just show up for work. He says i’m coming up with excuses not to come in to work because I simply don’t want to be there which is not the case. I LOVE my job and I hate that my health problems come in between me and my work. he basically ended up calling me pathetic and telling me i need to get my shit together and other things that are not okay to be saying to a co worker. Before he started attacking me I told Red that if me calling out was too big of an issue I’d be willing to quit to make it easier for him and someone else can take the position but he ended up blocking me. I also apologized to him profusely for calling out on Sunday even tho it didn’t effect him at all. I went in to work and talked to my boss about the things Red said to me and he isn’t going to address them. he basically said that I needed to take better care of myself so I wouldn’t ever have to call out. I told him Red had made me very uncomfortable and he didn’t even acknowledge it. this isn’t the first time Red and I have clashed and each time my boss hasn’t done anything, but this is by far the worst and i’m very upset that my boss is going to let Reds behavior slide without any accountability. I’ve decided that I’m going to quit the job because it isn’t worth all the drama no matter how much I love it, but am I crazy for thinking Red needs to be held accountable for some of the things he said to me? Red has every right to be upset he had to go in today, but I think i’m justified in saying he shouldn’t be treating his coworkers like how he’s treating me and that my boss should step in. To be honest i’ve never had to deal with anything like this before in my life, Is my boss in the wrong for understaffing and turning a blind eye? Is Red in the wrong for being rude? Or am I in the wrong for calling out knowing there’s no one to cover? lmk!