My 20y/o brother and his 18y/o spouse just left the house after getting in a heated argument with my mother over money. This altercation started when my brother let his girlfriend move into me and my mother’s house (we are both on the loan and own this house). Things started well she cleaned and was nice. At the time she was not working due to a back injury after an accident a few months ago. Things started going downhill when she started to get mad/upset and give everyone attitude, we have a rule in the house that if you do not work you are responsible to clean and she got on everyone about cleaning when she was the one home the most. They also had friends over 24/7, and these friends would help themselves to food and soda, my brother who did have a job paid my mom 200$ bi-weekly for car insurance and food. This led to the issue of them eating all the food and not contributing.
Fast forward to about a week ago my mom has been getting on my brother’s partner for not working or contributing to the household, my brother and his Girlfriend tell my mom they are looking to move. We were okay with this due to us having bills covered without them. My mom worked hard to get my brother and his girlfriend a job at her second job and once they get it, they don’t ask for a start date, my mom later gives it to them. My brother’s girlfriend comes in the night of the altercation telling my mom that she won’t pay for the first 2 months of her working so they can save to move out. My mom said that isn’t how this works and by brother’s girlfriend starts screaming at my mom about it this led to an argument between the two, but when my mom told my brothers girlfriend to shut up my brother started yelling at my mom. this led my mom’s boyfriend to get involved where he blocked my mom and brother from continuing. My brother his girlfriend and my mom’s boyfriend all leave. My mom calls me to inform me what’s going on.
When i was on the phone with my mom I hear my brother come back with his GF and they start going at it with my brother saying he’s leaving, and his GF starts yelling again. My mom ends our call and they argue. During this argument my brother supposedly starts playing with his rifle. I am blowing up my mom’s phone making she didn’t fight my brothers GF but they ended up leaving.
Then on my day off me and my partner go to the mall while my mom’s at work and my brother shows up to the house while no one’s home and takes his diploma and grabs a soda i bought off the table. My mom tells him to have someone there next time so we can make sure he is grabbing his things. He ends up calling me and says hell wait for me and starts bad mouthing our mom i tell him to get his facts straight and his girlfriend is yelling in the background. So i did what anyone would do and tell her to STFU, My brother goes off on me and says he will be on his way to get his stuff I inform him im calling the cops cause he owns guns and im not dealing with that. AITA for calling them?
NTA better to be safe. Have the police there and make sure he removes all his stuff then call a locksmith
omg i would’ve called the cops too, letting someone move in without even asking the homeowners is such a huge boundary violation.
Unfortunately we allowed her to stay at the start. She was nice the first few weeks but we noticed that when she didn’t get her way or what she wanted she would throw a fit. She would go quiet and give everyone attitude. It got so bad my brother couldn’t afford Valentine’s Day and he asked me and my partner what we where doing and when I told him we where going out her face dropped and she stormed upstairs. My brother ended up narrowing 130$ from my mom to take her out.
The way its headed, your brother’s going to jail for threatening your mum with a gun. His girlfriend will get pregnant, give birth and then dump the child on you.
Good luck in the future.
NTA. I doubt very much that the girlfriend has a back injury either and is looking for someone or anyone to fund her lifestyle. But that is your brother’s problem and sadly it sounds like they are made for each other.
ESH… what a dysfunctional and toxic mess.
I’ll take that ngl
NTA it’s better to be safe than sorry
ΝΤΑ, make sure he gets ALL his stuff out, then change locks in the house. Hope your relationships improve once they’re settled elsewhere.
No
YTA or ESH y’all sound like trashy toddlers
NTA
Something isn’t right here.
Nobody called the cops while he was *playing with his rifle during the fight.* But when he wants to collect *his* stuff while *nobody is home* you call the cops because he’s collecting *his* things without supervision? Why does he need to be supervised, when so far the only thing he took that wasn’t his was *a soda?*
In the grand scheme, I guess e-s-h because you don’t play with guns during screaming matches and expect it to be forgotten. But in this case, YTA, he’s collecting *his stuff* and you are basically trying to hell your mom make it difficult. This didn’t have to escalate the way it did, and if you were truly concerned for your safety, you would’ve called *earlier*, not as a response to him saying he shouldn’t have to wait.
And frankly, you need to grow up and stop letting your mom involve you in her conflicts. She wants him supervised? *She* can take the day off and deal with it. You’re not her lapdog.