I feel bad because I was on these dating apps and I was really looking forward to going on a date. It was just a couple days ago that was so excited about a bunch of things but it all got shattered when my oldest cat was brought to the that on Friday and they told us things weren’t looking good with her. Saturday she started declining even more and me and my family decided to have her put down because she was suffering in her condition was not getting any better. After we got the news that my cat didn’t have long that was the beginning of me going through depression. I had to tell my date that I had to cancel and the next day when we were supposed to go on our date we had my cat put to sleep. I just felt like my world came crashing down and have no desire to date and on top of that I’m dealing with my other cat grieving pretty badly and trying to make sure that she is doing okay and making sure she gets enough food. I got together with a girlfriend but at the same time that’s way less pressure than going on a date. He understood and told me that he was sorry that I lost my cat but I eventually stopped hearing from him. I understand but I feel like I did something wrong even though I could never predicted this. Even my other family members are depressed and we had this cat for 14 years. I cannot say when I will be ready to date but it’s not going to happen anytime soon. I can’t tell him or anybody when I will be ready but right now I got to do what’s best for my well-being and that definitely means taking myself out of the dating scene!
NTA
You didn’t ghost him, you told him what happened you’re not in the right headspace. It is what it is. Simple as.
Whether or not he believed you is the other story or if he wanted to deal with dating someone who just lost their cat but you did nothing wrong on your end.
Thank you it’s just really hard but it seems like some people are just expecting me to just be okay with just going on dates in a week or two but this is not something that’s going to be a short-term grieving. I’m sure it will get better in a couple months but the last thing I need to worry about right now is dating. I also have to keep an eye out for my other cat who is still alive who is also grieving. I am worried about her so I’m trying to take extra good care of her. I don’t feel right bringing people into this but if they want to rush me back into dating or going into dates with them then I guess I get a glimpse of how they would be if I’m going through grief. He just distanced himself for me.