AITA and selfish for canceling a Christmas party that I was going to host due to morning sickness?
I talked to my guests in advance and one guest refused to hear alternatives. Another guest offered to take up planning and was the only one to send out details. Being sick, I thought all was planned and good. Later that night, and for 6 months afterwards, I received messages from the guest who refused alternatives that I was selfish, that they helped me with my sick cat and what does he get, and said my husband and I only like to play our games. Any time we asked to reschedule it was met with “how about Christmas Eve”.
I could have brought it up all wrong and I know the guest is adamant on a specific day and time (has been for years). I had just hoped for some grace given the circumstances.
NTA you can cancel a party for literally any reason honestly especially that far in advance! they’re being stubborn and rude honestly – they think they’re owed a party for helping your cat? bizzare behavior honestly
Bruh, you’re growing a whole human and folks are whining about a party? 💀 If someone can’t handle a reschedule cuz you’re sick, that’s a them problem fr.
NTA for deciding to cancel any party for any reason, but especially for reasons of not being well. Only idiots would complain about that. Ignore them.
NTA. That person seems entitled. Most people are accommodating, especially if being told in advance.
You don’t even need a reason to opt out of hosting – but you have a really good one.
Someone’s being selfish.
And it’s not you.
NTA.
Info: Did this happen last year and they are still bringing it up?
Regardless, NTA. You aren’t obligated to host parties. You also aren’t responsible for this person’s rigid thinking. That is their issue, not yours.
NTA, whomever was complaining long after the fact was truly an AH. People who haven’t been through it. might not understand though b/c morning sickness is its own kind of Hell.
NTA. Hosting is a lot of work and stress and you clearly don’t need that right now. You have every right to cancel and you tried to make it work. Idk who this one guest is, but unless they are close family you need to deal with I would tell them to kick rocks for being so rude.
Any guest who messaged you for 6 months complaining about a party cancelled because you were sick should be blocked.
Nope. Didn’t even need to read past the first sentence. I did this exact thing last year. I usually host dinner and straight up told my family, not this year, y’all are on your own. They managed just fine and weren’t jerks about it. Because they get it.
Take care of you and that whole ass human being you’re growing. Because it’s hard work!
NTA. That guy is being a jerk.
So you cancelled a party 6 months in advance because of morning sickness?
Or you cancelled last year’s party and for six months afterwards someone was complaining?
What does you and your husband’s taste in games have to do with anything?
People talk about punctuation being the tell-tale sign of AI, but incoherent/inconsistent details are the real giveaway.
A grown man is still going on about this 6 months later??
Wait what? Someone is trying to insist you host a party despite having over 6 months to come to terms with the change in host? Why? NTA