I feel like it is a silly post to make, but it has been stuck in my head the way she responded to the confrontation.
For context, shes been dating a guy (call him V) and theyve been dating for id say around 2 years. I knew that she had guy friends who were all secrets to V, and I didnt really think much of it to be honest. However, during summer of 2025, I would borrow her phone to text people (as mine was being fixed) and she was fully accepting of this.
At some point I had to use it during the morning to check my emails, but she had left her messages open and the first thing I saw were messages of her flirting with one of her guy friends (A). Eventually I confronted her about it, because no matter who it is I do not stand for cheating, and she was very livid. She told me that I was wrong to defend the guys, and that even her other ‘shitty friends’ were defending her and only ever worried that she would get caught rather then how the boys would feel. I let it pass, and hoped that she’d stop doing these kinds of things, but just last month another guy who was claiming to be a friend of hers came over to visit us for a week. Despite what they were telling me, they were being very touchy. We went to watch a movie and I noticed that he would literally put his hand on her thigh. I was genuinely so uncomfortable. and the day that he was going to leave I confronted her once more and she confessed that she had been with him for over a YEAR. I continued to speak to her about it and she ended up swearing that she wouldnt do such a thing again, but I dont know if I can believe her and I know its not much of my business but I cannot tolerate these kinds of things especially as someone who expirienced being on the other side.
Dude, stop trying to teach your shitty cousin how to behave and just start telling the guys that she’s cheating on them.
At the risk of losing her relationship with her cousin
Nta, your cousin has a horrible moral compass. But I’d let V know what’s happening so he can decide for himself what he wants to do
>I continued to speak to her about it and she ended up swearing that she wouldnt do such a thing again
She isn’t going to change. Just tell the boyfriend that she’s cheating on so he can be cut loose already.
NTA though, you see she’s doing something shitty and are calling her out for it. I’d do the same thing, regardless of who it was.
That wasn’t a gray area situation. She knew what she was doing.
How does this concern you? It’s your friend’s karma not yours. If her actions doesn’t align with your morals, then distance yourself. She knows her actions are wrong and it will bite her in the a**. She’ll meet “the one” and he’ll so to her what she is doing to others.
She’s wrong and that’s her problem to deal with. Relative to yourself…WHY do you hang-out with such a person?
YTA
You sound so annoying. Stop hounding this woman, stop reading her messages, and stop spending time with her if you can’t stand her behavior.