i am 19F and my friend is also 19F
backstory: we’ve known each other for 6 years and around 2024 she became pretty off and on with me. the only time i’d really here from her is when she wanted to talk about her personally life, guy issues, or to ask me for her opinions (which i’d always reply to – no hesitance). but when it comes to me reaching out, usually 9/10 my messages get left on read or stay on delivered until she has something to say regarding herself.
in 2025 i had finally mentioned to her that i felt we didn’t talk much and felt like she could’ve been purposely ignoring me, i asked if there was anything i had done for this to be the case, and she replied almost instantly and said the reason she usually leaves me on read and doesn’t reply is because she’s busy. we had almost always had the same lifestyle, work, school, had same friend groups typically, so i had always questioned if she was truly busy, because even when i was, i’d always reply back when i had the chance.
i cannot even mention how many times this cycled repeated itself, but almost every time after i explained my feelings and addressed these issues, she would for a few days go back to communicating the way we used to, but after a week or so it went right back to how it used to be.
back in september, she had went a few weeks without replying to me and continued to read my messages, but not reply. during this entire time i had other mutual friends telling me she was talking to them almost daily, and she was also viewing my social media posts and actively on social media herself during this time – i had proceeded to send her a pretty heartfelt messages explaining that if there was something wrong, i’d like to fix it and that i value this friendship, however she texted back almost immediately again stressing nothing was wrong, she was just busy and couldn’t be on her phone all the time and text me and told me i was taking it too seriously.
after that initial conversation the next day i reached out asking if she wanted to hang out, no reply. here’s where it really starts to get deeper – the whole month i didn’t hear from her, a whole month went by of her reading my messages, not replying, and just nothing, she had finally texted me on christmas eve asking if we were going to get together and exchange gifts, to which i told her no because we hadn’t planned anything due to the fact i haven’t heard from her at all, she then proceeded to tell me ‘’i know she’s busy’’ and i could’ve still planned something, that we do it every year and why would it be different this year, etc etc. after her getting pretty upset and telling me i was wrong for the choice i made. she continues to go silent and not speak to me, and i currently haven’t heard from her since new years as she wanted my opinion for her outfit that day. since, i haven’t heard from her or gotten a reply back to anything i’ve sent, and i message almost daily.
what would you guys do?