I’ll probably be deleting this soon, just want other peoples opinions. Here’s the context : I don’t have any of my parents expect for my brother that lives in the US. We currently live in my aunties old house that she sold to us for half the price . My brother also invited his gf to live there. Now , I’ll be moving out of there to another state for college. I’m saving up money etc. and honestly now that im serious I haven’t been letting things slide that easily as I used to. Today I got called out by his gf because I thought her bar soap was mine (it’s the brand I use all the time and it’s her first time buying it ) so I took it with me to my room. I apologized about it but she just kept on going off and told me to throw it away . These are all happening on iMessages . I point out how everyone in this house uses each others stuff unintentionally so it’s best to just be kind to each other (I gave example to my body wash and face wash being used ) TLDR she saying im stingy since I buy my own stuff and called me broke and a leech . And it’s kind of sad how this is genuinely how im viewed when im always enthusiastic to share my makeup or give her the rest of my pads or even cook for her even though im on a tight budget.
NTA, she’s a leech, petty, and she’s projecting. College away from them is going to be a great escape. Stop sharing with her, and make sure to put a great lock on your bedroom door. I can guarantee she’ll be helping herself to your space when you’re away otherwise.
I thought the whole situation was ironic considering she couldn’t pay me back the Chinese food I got for her a week ago cuz she’s “broke” and told me she’ll pay me back when she has money . Spoiler alert: she never did. Am I shocked ? No. Also for a year or two she’s been talking about turning my room into an office or a walk in closet before I was even planning on moving out for college. It just makes me feel weird . They also took away my key so I can’t lock my door unless im inside my room :/
Buy a sturdy new lock, change it yourself. They obviously get no key. There are multiplr videos on how to do this on YouTube. It’s easier than you think.
Is this your house that you part own? Because if it is, then you could always sell your half of the house at market rate, set yourself up for the future and not have to deal with your brother and his freeloading girlfriend.
>We currently live in my aunties old house that she sold to us for half the price .
INFO: Who owns the house? Did you and your bother both invest money, whose name is on the paperwork?
Because it sounds like the gf is eager to have you out and I bet she thinks your brother owns it all. I’d hate to think you get screwed out of the value of the property if it’s joint ownership.
If it is joint ownership, make sure you get in writing what the deal is and get it signed off by a witness like your auntie (NOT THE GF). Include what happens to it if he marries and raises a family there, eg that if you agree to sell your half, it’s valued at market rate at the time of buy-out, or an amount you both agree upon.
The house is under my mom and my brothers name. So it’s technically not completely owned by my brother. My mom said that her half of the house is also considered my half. Also he’s planning on renting out the house once im gone
Once you move out you’ll be lucky if you get back in. That girl has her eyes set on having a house without you in it. If your name is on it and they want to take it over when you move I’d set up an agreement of payment whatever you personally paid into it.