I (21m) live in an apartment with a couple of guys near my university.
This past weekend one of the had his 18 year old brother who was going to go to school here next year stay with us for a few days. Apparently his family is kind of uptight. He asked us to respect some basic rules: no drinking while his brother was there, no bringing girls we weren’t dating to spend the night, and to be “decent” in the living spaces. I’ll admit that last one was directed at me. I’m a pretty type B person and I’ll usually spend the morning wearing whatever I slept in, which is typically underwear.
Anyway the brother comes, we follow all the rules. He does not seem uptight like his family but it’s still not a big deal to follow the rules. We heard he was staying until Sunday morning.
Anyway I wake up around 10:00 Sunday. I realize I don’t know if the brother is still there so figured I’ll get dressed to be safe. I throw on a sweatshirt but then I realize it’s laundry day and what I have in my room for pants are jeans which feels excessive. I own a pair of Ralph Lauren boxers, think the really baggy kind that are basically shorts. Theyre too big in my opinion to actually use as underwear but sometimes I wear them as pajamas. I figure they’re fine and put them on over my actual underwear.
Anyway i go down to cook an egg for breakfast and halfway through the brother comes in. I talk for a few minutes with him and as soon as my egg is done I put it on a plate and bring it to my room. By the time I shower and come back the brother had left.
Anyway apparently the brother is mad and now my friend is hearing it from his family. I think I followed the rules but my friend says no. AITA?
NTA. It also doesn’t make much sense. So they are ok with the older brother hanging out with guys in their underwear but not the 18-year old son who is going to college next year?
And the 18-year old son who seemed cool narced to his parents about you being in boxers that looked like shorts? And is mad about it? Really?
Don’t get any of it.
NTA.
Wearing boxers over briefs is the same as wearing pajama shorts.
EDIT to ADD: In a world where people go to Walmart in their pajamas, the onus is on your friend to define “decent.”
What’s the difference between shorts and loose gym shorts style boxers? Was your weiner & bits hanging out?
The 18 yr old can also look elsewhere than at boxer shorts dude.
NTA. It’s your house and you tried even though you really didn’t have to.
NTA. You put them on OVER your underwear. They are being ridiculous.
NTA. I wouldn’t be ok with the brother staying again. If the 18yr old brother has a problem with people in baggy shorts in their own home, the parents can put him up in a hotel and not expect a bunch of college kids to babysit.
What a fucking snitch. He’s all nicey nicey to your face and chats to you but then goes and tattles on you to his brother and his mommy back home. Hes gonna need to grow up pretty quickly cause for an 18 yo to be behaving like that is pretty embarrassing. NTA.
>apparently the brother is mad and now my friend is hearing it from his family
Are his parents going to come over and ground you as well?
You’re a 21yo adult. All of you pay your share of the rent. Your single roommate doesn’t get to dictate what you can do in your own space.
NTA
NTA…You pay rent, so you’re not subject to a roommates rules for when his family visits. If they don’t like it, they can stay elsewhere. Boxers are shorts. You were clothed.
Hes in your home, he should adapt to your house not the other way around
Nta
NTA! Boxers are appropriate to wear in your own home, even with visitors, especially when you were wearing underwear underneath them.
“no bringing girls we weren’t dating to spend the night”
In what world is that any of their business? The fact that you all didn’t take a stance here is downright pathetic. It’s none of his or his family’s business who you sleep with.
Also, no drinking while his brother was there.
WTF? This all sounds controlling and dickish.
NTA. It’s also YOUR place and you put on a shirt. Boxers are basically shorts and if an 18 year old dude can’t take the sight of a guy in boxers that’s a different issue!
“Dude, sorry I turned your little bro on by wearing boxers.”