I love to cook. Thanksgiving is one of my favorite days of the year. After Thanksgiving dinner last week, we ended up giving more of our turkey leftovers away than planned. I mean, I’m overjoyed that everyone loved it and wanted some to take home! So I happily gave it away. But I was expecting more meat leftover for leftover dishes like turkey pot pie, fried rice, soup, etc. I made a metric TON of turkey broth with the carcass, too. So we have like 2 gallons of delicious turkey broth and no turkey. See where this is going?
I’m at the grocery store yesterday and they’ve marked down the fresh turkeys. $10 for a high quality fresh 14 lb bird? Hell yeah! More turkey meat for more leftover broth meals! I decide to get one and roast it (not doing any brining or the whole crazy debacle, just roasting it with spices). I start it this afternoon and prep potatoes and carrots. Takes hours. I jokingly send a text to my husband that we are having “Thanksgiving 2.0” tonight. He gets home and he is NOT happy. He thinks it’s “illogical” to have another Thanksgiving dinner so soon after the first. I’m like… it’s just a turkey. It’s the same as if I’d roasted a chicken? And cost less, too. But he says “you just did this for yourself” (which really rubbed me the wrong way) and that I “should have asked” him. IMO, if I came home to someone who had cooked me a full meal with a roasted bird, carrots, potatoes, and gravy, I’d be on cloud nine. But he was just irritated and snapped at me about not wanting more Thanksgiving and that nobody wants that much turkey.
I told him if my home cooked dinner was so illogical and stupid, he could make his own dinner. So the kids and I ate turkey and potatoes, and he microwaved something, and I don’t feel good about how it all went down. For the record, I don’t usually consult him about dinner plans. I also make dinner nearly every night and he never has to think about it. So now I am thinking of not cooking for him at all until he realizes how much I do around here. In my dreams, he should have been thanking me the minute he walked in! But I also don’t want to be a passive aggressive bitch. Help me out here. Does my husband have a point?
NTA. I would love Thanksgiving 2.0.
NTA but your husband is acting like an ungrateful ass.
NTA and why the hell is your hubby throwing a damn tantrum over Thanksgiving 2.0!? That is CRAZY what is WRONG with him!?
If my wife completely unprompted texted me announcing Thanksgiving 2.0 it would make my whole freaking week.
“Illogical” what? His REACTION IS ILLOGICAL.
I think there’s something else going on. Is he being a prick to you otherwise? Is he just picking fights?
Even if he didn’t want more turkey, all he had to say was, “that’s so awesome babe! You got a great deal! I’m super stuffed with turkey so for now I’ll just have potatoes and carrots but can’t wait for all the pot pie and soups you’ll be making!”
NTA
Your husband sounds like an insufferable ass. Imagine being angry about a cheap, delicious meal being ready for you when you arrived home. Only a total dipshit could find a way to twist this. Let him starve.
NTA. It was smart and delicious. What more does he want?
I have nearly a half gallon of gravy left and no other leftovers (because we’ve run out in the past, so we made sooooo much this year), and I’m planning to get another on-sale turkey or turkey breast this weekend to use that up.
nta. you literally made a home-cooked meal for your family and he got mad because… it was turkey again? that’s such a wild hill to die on. if someone surprised me with a full roast dinner, i’d be grateful, not grumpy. this feels less about turkey and more about him taking your cooking for granted.
I also suggest turkey enchiladas
I cook every night for my husband. He has never complained about what I serve him, even when I used flavored coffee creamer in place of milk in our mashed potatoes. Your husband is rude.
*I used flavored coffee creamer in place of milk in our mashed potatoes.*
Day drinking again?
My husband occasionally says, “I’m not feeling X tonight,” very politely, and then makes himself something else. No fuss.
NTA – you gave away the leftovers which means he ate turkey once a couple weeks ago. It’s not like you’re forcing him to eat turkey for the foreseeable future, you want to use the leftovers to make future meals that are very different than a thanksgiving turkey. If he wants to have a say in dinner, he needs to have a part in planning, shopping, cooking, and cleaning for dinner too.
NTA but your husband really is. He sounds pretty ungrateful with the work and effort your put in to feed your family and, if I were you, I would continue to refuse to include him in my “illogical” dinner choices until he apologizes.
NTA. You’re doing all the meal planning, grocery shopping, and cooking for your family. Taking advantage of post-holiday sales is good sense. It’s not going to kill him to eat another meal of turkey.
I’m jealous, I could really go for more turkey myself.