So I had plans to go hang out with a newish friend I made and we agreed 7pm at the location. I transited 40 minutes to get there and I arrived at 6:50 and he messaged me at 6:52 that he wants to postpone it to another day because he’s tired…but I already got there and took a long commute to get there. Felt like a complete disregard for my time. In the past we’ve hung out with our other friend and he’s usually an hour or so late every time. I assumed since it was just us two he would be somewhat more on time since there’s no one else to do the activity with. But cancelling as I arrived was my last straw . AITA?
NTA
When it comes to friendships you are entirely entitled to setting your own standards, whether or not your standards are too high is entirely dependent on you and your needs
NTA. That person is rude af.
NTA.
This “new friend” is no friend at all. He is not respectful of your time, or apparently anyone’s time but his own.
You could rant at him about punctuality or wasting your time, but it unfortunately will fall on deaf ears, because this is who he is. A flake.
You can actively avoid him, or simply don’t make plans that rely on him being punctual or showing up at all. Starting with not rescheduling this event.
NTA. Turns out people who are usually late are usually late.
NTA. The dude was completely disrespectful and I think you should inform him that you made a huge effort to see him, which meant you spent a great deal of time preparing to meet up and traveling to get there only to have him cancel. Then tell him you are no longer interested in maintaining a friendship.
No a good friend would be better on time management
NTA i had a friend give tickets to someone else, not tell me after she begged me to join her for the game and I had to leave work early. I was in the parking lot calling her to ask which gate she was at. “Oh sorry Billy said he would come”
Yeah cut her off and never talked to her again. She was oblivious to other people, their tine or their feelings. She had done some things that weren’t as bad as this so this was the last straw.
People who don’t appreciate your time are not people you should waste your time on.
Cut them off. Up to you if you tell them why or not.
NTA. An appropriate last straw
NTA that’s so rude! You were already there and he knew that. It is a total disregard for your time, and I’d be done. They wouldn’t be hearing from me again.
NTA. That is beyond inconsiderate, and if they do it now with a new friend, it would only get worse.
NTA in general, but especially because it seems clear that this guy doesn’t have respect for any time other than his own.
You haven’t even known him that long and he already has a demonstrated pattern of being habitually late, so that on top of canceling on you last minute? No thanks.
Unless he lives 8 minutes or less away from the meeting place, he didn’t just ditch you but he waited until after he should have left home to let you know. Rude af. NTA.
NTA. Just a clear-cut big nope.
I’d ghost. NTA