I’m 24F, Last weekend, a few friends got together at one person’s apartment to hang out. It wasn’t a party just snacks, music, and talking. I’d had a rough week and told everyone beforehand that I was a bit low energy but still wanted to come by for a bit. At some point, the conversation shifted into jokes about personal stuff. Most of it was fine, but then one friend started making repeated comments about something I’m sensitive about. I laughed it off at first, but after the third or fourth remark, I asked them calmly to drop it. They rolled their eyes and said I was being dramatic and that it was just jokes. A couple of others laughed, not really at me, but not exactly helping either. I felt embarrassed and honestly pretty small in that moment. I didn’t argue. I just grabbed my jacket, said I was heading out early, and left. I didn’t slam doors or raise my voice. I sent a short text later saying I needed space and didn’t want things to get awkward. Since then, I’ve been told by two people from the group that I made things uncomfortable by leaving and that I should’ve just ignored it instead of making a scene. From my perspective, staying would’ve meant either snapping or sitting there feeling awful. I’m not trying to punish anyone, and I’m not demanding apologies. I just didn’t feel okay staying. Still, the way people are reacting has me second-guessing myself.
How can you expect us to pass judgement without additional detail.
“Something I’m sensitive about” could be as grotesque as someone making jokes about SA to as harmless as commenting about the weather when you don’t like the cold.
Given that you think that people hanging out with snacks and music isn’t a “party”, and that you tried to avoid making things awkward by sending a text message to everyone saying how uncomfortable you were, I’m not sure you’re a reliable narrator here.
INFO.