So I (34F) am a type one diabetic and am 30 weeks pregnant. It’s a high-risk pregnancy because of my disease and high pregnancy hormones are causing my insulin needs to skyrocket.
I’m set to have elective C-section in April 2nd (I chose a C-section because of the risks of my blood sugar affecting my baby during birth). Post-op, both the baby and I will be at high risk for severe low blood sugar due to the sudden shift in insulin needs because of hormones going down (after birth the expected is a sudden decrease in insulin needs for me and a rebound low blood sugar for the baby).
Despite all this, my MIL wants to hold a baptism right there in the maternity ward. I’ll be recovering from major surgery, likely feeling terrible with low blood sugars and the baby will still be in a fragile state (freshly out of the womb, likely low blood sugar as well).
My husband (34M) and I are both doctors. I expected him to understand the medical risks involved, but he’s taking his mother’s side. He’s making me feel like the AH for saying no and says I’m deliberately keeping his mother away from the baby (whom is not even here yet).
I am certain that it’s a way of her to guarantee that my SIL will be a godmother and excluding my sister, who I want to be my daughters godmother.
So AITH?
PS.: I have nothing against having her baptism later with a regular family lunch that is traditional in our country.