So heres how it all happened.
She was switching phones and needed to transfer all of her pictures from her phone to the hard drive.
She had to travel and said I dont wanna do data transfer rn, i said it wont take that long, and once we format your old phone we can give to another immediate family member whos phone was really old at that point, I said comon it wont take that long and she agreed.
I connected the phone, went to DCIM folder and started asking, do you need this folder? Do you need this folder? (There were sooo many, and she didn’t want to keep all of them)
But she told me, no deleting whatsapp images, they are super important.
The whatsapp images were in gallery, so I thought ill just copy everything from there,
There was a folder named "whatsapp" in the files, I asked her do you want to keep this?
She said no, so I deleted it.
when later we checked, every image in gallery that came from whatsapp was gone.
She started freaking and sobbing over how I always get her data deleted, how she didnt wanna do the data transfer rn and its my fault
Both of us didn’t know deleting that folder would delete every whatsapp image
I told her, I asked you, do you want to keep this folder and you said no. Only then I deleted it.
But she was screaming at me in a loud voice how its fault and you were the "computer genius" here
I said ok I accept, I didnt know that would delete all images from gallery, but its not my fault, I asked you do want to keep this and you said no.
You take responsibility of the actions you ask me to do.
It would 100% accept it was my fault if I deleted without asking her, it that was the case I wouldve checked by opening the folder to see whats inside, but i thought I would be violating her privacy so i just asked her herself, which folders she wants to keep.
She still often brings it up, and tells me that it was all my fault.
So aita?
Well did you know she wanted it? Or was your question “did you want this?”, you already knew she did want it and wanted clarification or you wholeheartedly didn’t know and she said “no delete it”?
I’m going to have to go with it being your fault.
Why were you involved in the first place? Doesn’t sound like she asked for your help. From what you’ve stated, she didn’t want to do the data transfer at the time because she had somewhere to go. You pressured her into doing it. You took the reigns as if you were competent in what you were doing. Yet you admit that you didn’t know the consequences of deleting the things you deleted.
In future, let your sister manage her own phone.
YTA
I’m sorry and very gently, but YTA.
She specifically told you not to delete any Whatsapp pics. You then decided that you’d still ask about a Whatsapp folder. Why? Like, seriously, what was your reasoning?
She wanted Whatsapp data to be left alone. Why didn’t you just copy/skip that folder immediately? She clearly doesn’t know how the phone works and you don’t either. You should have left all folders related to the one app she asked you not to delete alone/copied them without asking.
YTA, but really ESH/Yall dumb.
Yes data transfer takes a second. Don’t fuck with deleting everything. That doesn’t take a second.
If you’re tech savvy, imo you knew but really wanted to give the phone to the other person.
When travelling, it’s very logical to see how she’d be in no mindset to sit down and go through files etc…
Mainly YTA cause you won’t accept blame.
“No deleting WhatsApp pictures, they’re important to me”
“Should I delete this folder called WhatsApp?”
You dummy.
Have to go YTA on this one.
Her one request was that you not delete WhatsApp images (data). The directory was called “whatsapp” – there is no way deleting that turns out well for you.
If the directory was called “stuff” and you deleted it, I’d be on your side here, but it was literally called “whatsapp.”
YTA.
Sounds like you had no idea what you were doing. When you have no idea what you are doing, stay away from buttons that say “delete”.
You were the one who insisted on foing data transfer at this moment and thus bears the responsibility.
YTA. She made it clear she wanted to keep WhatsApp images yet you deleted the folder called WhatsApp – even though she agreed, you’re clearly more knowledgeable and pushed her into doing it there and then.
I’m sorry, soft yta. She told you she didn’t want to do it right there and then, but you took over and started doing it, which makes you kind of a pushy asshole. Yes, she could have stopped you, but she told you she would do it lter, so why push her to do it then when she clearly wasn’t in the mood to do so?
She told you she needed the whatsapp images, yet you are in the dcim folder and delete a folder ‘whatsapp’? It’s a but ironic you call her dumb with technology in the comments..
YTA
Your sister didn’t even want to do the deleting at the moment and you bullied her into it after being told multiple times no. And no means no. Full stop you should have left her alone after that.
When you finally got your way she emphasized whatsapp images were important and not to delete them. You clearly did not know what you were doing and were in a rush and again she was busy and could not fully pay attention to what you were doing so when you suggested a folder titled: whatsapp she assumed it wasn’t connected to the very specific items she told you not to delete as she was putting her faith in you that you knew what you were doing.
Apologize, eat crow and don’t bully people into doing a task you yourself don’t know how to do properly again.
YTA. So you forced your sister to do a data transfer on her phone when she said she dint want to, then she specifically said don’t delete the WhatsApp photos because their important, but in seeing a WhatsApp folder you thought it was a good idea to delete it, and now you don’t think you should take any blame for that? Were there even any other folders labeled WhatsApp or WhatsApp photos? Did you bother to check what was inside knowing that she said the photos were important? You were the one doing the actions here. You were the one who wanted to do the data transfer. You need to take responsibility for your actions.
You clearly took on a task you weren’t qualified to do, after assuring her you wouldn’t do the thing she didn’t want you to do.
Absolutely, YTA.
YTA
She didn’t want to do the transfer at all. You pushed. She made it clear not to delete WhatsApp images. You deleted a folder titled WhatsApp without checking what was in it.
You shouldn’t have taken on the task at all.