(P.S. sorry if this is hard to read i cant stop shaking at the moment and i feel like shit emotionall) For a little back story my GF (20) and I (22) have been dating for 3 months now and have known each other for over a year. She lives with her parents and I live on my own in a 1 bedroom apartment with a roommate and trying to get a new place.
We were having spicy talk and she called me and old man like she does alot. I jokingly said do you like this pervy old man. (I admit that I now regret ever saying that and am disgusted with myself)
She said "oh like my uncles". I asked her about it and she said she was just kidding and thats how she copes. I asked her what she means and she said "everyone deals with trauma differently"
I asked her what she went through (as I went through things as a kid) she said "lmao it wasn’t anything crazy, its just different when you live with them and they get comfortable"
I asked her what happened and she said "nothing im dramatic" I said wdym because I was seeing it as something sexual happened
She said "no it never got to that" I asked again what happened and she said in all caps "nothing happened" now she refuses to even look at any of my messages or answer the 2 calls I’ve made in the past 3 hours
YTA.
You don’t get to demand anything from your girlfriend, or anyone else. Respect her “no”.
Maybe stop asking her. Yta
It’s a tough one. Don’t think YTA, but at the same time, learn to drop it. If something happened, she obviously isn’t ready to talk about it, so stop pressing. But then she should be telling the truth that nothing happened.
That said, if you do ever talk about something like this, texting isn’t the way to go. That and don’t continue with your pushing. If you do push more, you will definitely be the AH. If she feels ready, she will tell you if something happened.