I’m a bit weak with english so please bear with it
So my brother (32m) and his wife (31f) married 4 years ago when they were around 27, before marriage my brother used to live with parents while I was pursuing my education.
When they got married they started living in a separate home which they rented for a while, my parents asked my brother if they can still live with him to which they (both brother and sister in law) said no that they want their personal space, and my parents were okay with it, so they started living separately.
After two years, my brother and sister in law, purchased their own house, and this time again my parents asked weather they can live with them to which they again denied (idk what was the reason this time).
Just last month, they’ve had a baby girl (which was their personal decision) and my parents were there with my brother and sister in law for the whole month, and now, they want my parents to stay with them to take care of the newborn (they’re not saying it out loud to my parents but from what I understand is that’s the only reason and also both my brother’s and sister in law’s paternity and maternity leave are ending).
They’re literally forcing them to stay with them, and I’m telling them to come back to home again as they’re parents not a babysitter who will live with them only when they need it, am I at fault explaining them to not live with them?
Info- why is it your decision to say whether your parents may live with your brother and his wife? Maybe they would be content living there and helping to take care of the baby.
YTA your parents are adults and can make their own decisions.
YTA I don’t see how this is any of your business at all.
I assume your parents are adults? Like, able to make their own decisions? Why do they need you to tell them what to do?
So…your parents want to live with them. Your bro and his wife currently want them to live with them. But you don’t. So yeah, YTA, can’t see why it’s any of your business!
YTA for inserting yourself into this issue when it doesn’t sound like anyone asked for your opinion. Your parents have been asking to live with them for years, they mat be perfectly happy to take care of their grandchild while their son and daughter-in-law work in exchange for doing so.
YTA – whether your parents live with your sibling and their family or not is absolutely none of your business. No-one is being forced to stay anywhere. This literally screams ‘I have no kids and have no idea how hard raising kids is’.
You not wanting them to live with you, and your sibling not wanting them there as a newly married couple is a completely different situation to them staying with your sibling to help take care of a newborn
How is this in any way YOUR decision? YTA
YTA. None of this is your business.
YTA
When they marry it makes perfect sense to start the marriage in their own home, a couple needs time to establish their new norm without others.
It’s years later and they have different circumstances, it’s OK for them to now value having your parents around. It’s OK for your parents to also change their mind and not want to live with them. It’s not OK for you to insert yourself unless your parents are asking your for advice
YTA why are you involved in this decision at all? Do they live with you? Do they take care of your kids? Your parents can live with your brother if they want to.
YTA this doesn’t sound like you should even be involved in the decision process.
YTA.
Honestly stay out of it. Your parents can make their own decisions.
Do you genuinely understand what “literally forcing..” actually means?
YTA-
It’s really hard to make a baby when your parents are living in the house. But now the baby is here, they are welcome to stay.
This isn’t exploitative. This is one of many natural and normal evolutions for a family.