So yeah. My kids and their mom moved to Tennessee a few years ago. I get all usual school breaks with them. Christmas, and summer but only get the odd years for spring break, she gets even according to the parenting plan. And though it didn’t state it yet in the parenting plan, she agreed to be financially responsible for the travel of the kids back to Washington during breaks, as a condition of her relocation. I do have that in writing though.
Last year when it was my year she said she couldn’t afford them to fly down for just a week. Being reasonable to her situation and wanting to see them still we drove across the country and spent the week with them doing activities and having fun. Which I would do a million times over.
However, my kids and I have kind of been planning this year’s spring break as if we were coming down there again. And my kids mom has even made reference to it as well. I’ve asked her if it’s okay but I’m worried she’s feeling pressured by us already having plans in the works, and not wanting to let the kids down in any way, and so she’s gone along with it. Which is why I’m wondering am I being the asshole for coming down for spring break this year.
Edit: Forgot to mention we also just recently were there for Halloween too to trick or treat with the and quickly went back home a couple days later.
Not sure if that strengthens the case for me or her but thought it necessary to include.