For context , we met through somewhat mural work. I , 27 female , met said male , 26?, a few weeks ago and he recently reached out for my WhatsApp/ number when he say me getting ready to go to the gym. Everything was fine and flirty and we even made plans to go and see each other that Sunday. Come Wednesday night, NYE, he still hadn’t confirmed plans with me that Sunday, and I , mostly drunk , texted him a snarky comment along the lines of , are you still interested in seeing me or not ? To which he replied a day later but I had lost my phone the night prior. It took me two days to find it again and when I finally got it back I messaged him and explained that I was drunk when I texted him and had lost my phone since. He never replied and say me today and was very short in conversation and basically ran away from me as fast as possible. AITA in this situation ? I’m really trying to figure out why he has gone ghost mode on me.
You asked him if he was interested, he responded, and then you said you were drunk? YTA. He’s ghosting you because you’re an obnoxious and irresponsible drunk.
Fair. Thanks for your input !
NTA for sending that text, but he probably ghosted you because you sound like a fucking mess. You’ve demonstrated very good reasons for him to not want to deal with your probably ample bullshit.
Fair enough. My life has been wild these past few years and I could understand this take.
Did you even apologize?
You definitely blew this and I’m leaning slight YTA cuz who acts like this at 27…
Maybe you can be a bit more patient next time? Wednesday – Sunday is still a solid amount of time to wait for an answer, who knows what his plans were on NYE..regardless he could’ve been busy. Also, if he didn’t reach out to follow up, there’s your answer.
no use in embarrassing yourself by trying to get an answer/some form of closure
Great advice for future experiences, thanks !
NAH – You took a chance to goad things along with a snarky text (although major holidays like NYE are best avoided if you haven’t even dated yet) and he, not knowing you very well, looked at the limited available data — drunk texting and losing your phone in a short span of time — and said nope, not worth the risk. Glad you apologized but time to respect his choice and move on yourself.
Thank you – noted and will do just that.
Very soft YTA. You were drunk. We’ve all done that with a new crush.
Don’t beat yourself up. Honestly, 2 people strike up a small crush and you *don’t* figure out New Year’s plans? Sounds like you’re just not that into each other. Let it go.
You’re right! Ya live and ya learn.
YTA – sorry to say it, but the degree of a-holedom over a drunken text is directly proportionate to the level of familiarity and/or his level of interest. If you came off too strong, you probably scared him away, and trying to fix it will only make you seem more clingy. Explain the situation and move on for your own sake. If he is as interested as you are, the next move is his to make or else it could turn toxic.