I(20M) got into a dispute with my partner(20F) because of my eating habits.
I woke up today and decided to go to my favourite cafe for a nice cup of coffee and a sandwich. I invited my partner to join me because it’s also her favourite cafe and we haven’t been on a date for a while now(we both work in retail and have separate shifts(she does nights while I do days)we’re also both full time uni students with assessment week coming up).
We got to the cafe and the owner tells us that they’re running low on a lot of ingredients. Both of the sandwiches(Cajun chicken, fish fingers) we were planning to get was out. I was then recommended to get the tuna melt and a cup of coffee by the owner, while my partner got a bacon sarnie.
We then had our sandwiches and I proceeded to finish my coffee. We both agreed to do work towards our assessments today so I gave her a kiss and was ready to start. While I leaned in to kiss her she pulled away right when our lips touched and fake gagged saying my breath smelt of tuna and coffee. Then did not kiss me for the rest of the day even though I tried everything to get rid of the smell.
She then told me it’s my own problem since I had two of her least favourite things in the world and should never have it again or else she won’t kiss me again.
I am now contemplating weather or not to give up on some of my favourite foods/drinks for her but I want to know am I the arsehole if I don’t give it up
NTA but a breath mint would be polite.
Just don’t kiss her after eating those 2 until you’ve brushed your teeth or used mouthwash
ESH. If you know she dislikes tuna and coffee, settle for a peck on the cheek of fix your breathe first-brush and mouthwash. She’s wrong to say you aren’t ever allowed to consume coffee or tuna.
NTA but she is. She needs to grow up. NEVER give up your favorite things. It’s not like drugs or alcohol or a shopping addiction. You ate tuna and drunk coffee. Be serious.
NTA as long as you don’t try to kiss her again after eating those foods.
NTA for eating that combo (although it doesn’t sound appealing to me). While your partner is wildly overreacting by trying to restrict what you consume, I can appreciate not want to kiss someone with combined tuna/coffee breath.
Gum? NAH
It’s fine to not want to kiss someone when their breath smells of a particular food you don’t like. It’s fine to choose to enjoy that food anyway and temporarily forego kissing.
If she’s saying you have to give up those foods permanently or she’ll never kiss you again (regardless of whether you actually smell of them), that’s over the line into controlling, and NTA.
If she’s just saying she’s got a standing “no kissing while tuna breath” policy, that’s inconvenient for you both, but fine, NAH.
Nta just brush your teeth or chew mint gum after. Can’t believe she would tell you to never have those things again or she won’t kiss you….seems childish.
I’ve kissed my husband after he licked me from the rooter to the cooter . I think she’ll be alright .
Role reversed she would not give up her favorite foods… she would blame you and say its your problem deal with it… red flag right there
NAH. You are welcome to eat tuna and drink coffee, and it’s okay if your GF doesn’t kiss you for a day because she doesn’t like the smell. There’s no AH here, just a case of conflicting likes/dislikes.
Now that you know that she doesn’t like the tuna smell, just kiss her on the cheek after you eat tuna. Then make sure you have a strong breath mint or brush your teeth before kissing her on the lips. I have the same reaction when my husband tries to kiss me after he has eaten raw onions. 🤢
NAH. You can eat what you like, and she can refuse you if she doesn’t like it. Nobody is at fault here. Maybe get some mints to help with the breath, if you want.