I (25F) have been friend with Isaiah (25M) since university. He’s really nice and weve gotten really close over the past year. I could sleep over at his place and vice versa, we’d hang out together a lot, etc.
Hes recently started dating this new girl I’ll call Ava. Ava doesn’t really seem to like that I’m friends with him, because she thinks he treats me like a gf. Which you could say if it was anybody else, but Isaiah is like that with everybody (even his male friends). But we’re still friends.
Last weekebd, we (as in me, Isaiah, and a few other friends) went out and toward the end of the outing most people had already left so it was just me and him. We drove to a fast food place nearby and got something to eat. After I placed my order on the tablet thing, I assumed he would add his order to mine and pay for it all (like he usually does) but he ordered separately after making sure I had money.
When I asked him about it, he apologized and said that his gf didn’t like him doing that for me anymore. I told Isaiah that paying for food wasnt crossing any boundaries, and that resulted in some back and forth before we decided to drop the topic. Later when I was at home, his girlfriend texted me basically the same thing Isaiah told me.
AITA? We haven’t talked since that happened
EDIT: I didn’t have an issue with paying, I just wanted to know why…
Yta
He is not your bf friends pay for themselves
INFO does he always pay for your food? do you ever return the favor?
Yes, YTA. Expecting someone to pay for your food is not okay, it’s a nice gesture that he doesn’t have to do. He’s also respecting a boundary for his girlfriend, which sounds like him being a good partner.
YTA. Not because his girlfriend doesn’t like it but because you’re mooching off a friend. Most friends pay for their own food unless it’s something like your birthday and your friend offers to shout you a meal.
I see very little justification for anyone expecting someone else to pay for my food, let alone someone who isn’t my partner or my parent.
Why don’t you pay for his food?
YTA. It’s super weird he was doing that to begin with. Why exactly do you expect him to pay for your food all the time?
YTA. I mean, putting the girlfriend aside, why do you feel entitled to him paying for your food in the first place?
YTA. It shouldn’t be an expectation. Youre using him
YTA
Generally friends don’t pay for other friends all of the time. That’s a more dating behavior and that’s why it’s a boundary for her.
If this is really your friend pay for your own food to make him and his girlfriend more comfortable.
If it’s that much of an issue that you pay for your own fast food then you obviously weren’t that good of friends with him.
YTA
Your friends boundaries changed and you should respect that.
YTA for expecting someone else to pay because they have in the past.
If he did it that would be his call but shouldn’t be expected by a friend that another would pay unless they specifically said they were.
You’re entitled. Please clarify why he should pay your way
YTA and the definition of a pick me.
YTA
Assuming a male friend in a relationship will pay for your dinner? Giiirrrllll…grow up and pay for your own food. Or pay for yourself and his.