All right so recently, my girlfriend, her mom and her friend went on a trip to the Virgin Islands and during this trip we would only talk at night, which I would normally see as fine. However I’ve been gone 14 hours away for the last five months for my MBA program and felt like since I was only down here for December break, which is less than a month she would’ve enjoyed talking to me a little bit more.
I could’ve gone on the trip, but her mom doesn’t have the best personality and was already angry before the trip started and I didn’t feel like participating in something that wasn’t gonna be a good time. Once she got back from the trip she immediately started giving me a recap of the trip and everything that we discussed on FaceTime.
Not gonna lie this did make me very angry and I kind of shut down and didn’t wanna have a conversation because during this whole time that I’ve been home she’s gone out with her friends and her mom more than she’s gone out with me and didn’t even ask me when I was gonna be leaving back.
After she noticed that I was in the mood she kept on asking me what was wrong and stuff like that and eventually I told her that I’m leaving back to Cincinnati in the morning which made her mad and she started questioning why I didn’t tell her when I was leaving, and I replied you never asked me. After this, he asked me that I just wanna go home before my flight since I’m obviously not having a good time with her and I blew up and told her to just block my number and never contact me again and we’re done dating at this point. I basically wanna know I’m an asshole. Am I wrong in this situation? Did I overreact?
YTA
YTA she was on vacation. Of course she only.talked to you at night. And then when she wanted to share with you, you pouted.
You get to break up with people who don’t prioritize you. You don’t even need a reason to break up with someone. If you’re not feeling it, move on.
YTA. You’re acting childish.
YTA- you chose not to go in the trip, you chose not to communicate.
Have you been inviting her places and are you open to joining plans with friends?
YTA she’s on vacation. Controlling much? Dump her so she can find someone better than you. And you, stay single forever plz or grow up.
You chose to be away from her for your MBA, then you chose to be away from her by declining the chance to go on the holiday with her, then you got mad at her for talking about what she’d done on the holiday you chose not to go on. YTA
You could have gone along. You didn’t. Then you were deeply annoyed when she wanted to keep telling you about things she’d mentioned before — a capitol crime, of course. You were “very angry’ and shut down and didn’t communicate when you were leaving; what a shocker that she went out with others.
Absolutely stay broken up with this woman. She probably doesn’t need any more hostile, petulant, childish behavior from a partner.
YTA, and I’m kind of stunned by the lack of insight here.
YTA.
You could have gone on the trip, but didn’t. She wanted to share her trip and experience with you, you shut it down. You refused to be with her going out, and became jealous she didn’t go out with you more. When you were upset, you didn’t communicate, you just said you were leaving, then got mad when she got mad.
You’re not acting like a partner, you’re acting like a possessive asshole. However, you did her a favor by breaking up because you are NOT in a place in your life that you should be in a long term relationship.
You’re mad at her for going on an awesome trip for her break. That you were invited to and opted not to go.. because of her mom.
You don’t think you guys would’ve had some quality time on the trip to outweigh her mom’s personality? You’re the one who chose to not spend time with her.
Then you get mad at her for talking about her experience when she got back, which is a normal thing people do. You also kept the date to yourself to spite her. “You didn’t ask” that is so childish.
She was right to suggest you leave, punishing her like that instead of saying how you felt.
Take some accountability for how your actions played out here. YTA.
Uh, wow. YTA, that poor girl deserves better. She invited you on the trip and then YOU declined. She then tried to share her life with you and you got angry that she had a good time on a trip that again, you declined to go on. She expressed that you upset her and then you go and blow up on her and dump her for what? Not making everything about you? Narcissist is thy name sir.
YTA you were invited stop being a baby.
YTA. Quit this little pity party. You sound exhausting to deal with and have poor communication/emotional intelligence skills.
ETA, since I read some comments: Massive YTA. You are acting like she never pays attention to you when you admit that she has included you in events and you have taken trips together in the past. You don’t go on one trip, one that you rejected and now are crying about neglect and blow up on her? I hope she takes you at your word and NEVER speaks to you again.