I recently got invited to go to a more fancy buffet restaurant and after go to an art theater kinda thing a few weeks ago with my girlfriend and her family. I obviously agreed seeing as how I’m unemployed and figured I’d be something new and fun. Then just two days ago my mom’s boyfriend and I were talking over dinner and asked I would be interested in getting my permit to carry which i mean might as well so the next day I registered.
What I for got to check was the dates which just so happen to line up I text my girlfriends mom later that night after realizing my mistake and told her and she was obviously upset and this morning she told my gf and we have been talking about I offered to reschedule the test and she told me not to and I even offered to pay for my part if the food and and art theater and she declined.
I feel like both of them are annoyed with me, and I’m not 100% sure what to do to make the situation better I obviously feel bad and there is no one to blame but me. But at the same time I don’t think it’s as big of a deal as they’re making it out to be.
YTA
You already had something planned, so you should have cancelled the plans with your mom’s bf.
The test could easily be replaced, the dinner and art show can’t.
So yta for not just rescheduling the test
Yes. Definitely TAH. It sounds like the gf’s parents already paid for his ticket to attend so he should have immediately rescheduled the CCW test. They are ongoing and happen every week in most places. OP is absolutely TAH. Just because YOU don’t think it’s a big deal doesn’t mean everyone else does. Go apologize.
Why aren’t you employed? Yta always follow through with the first commitment. You just blew it big time with your gfs parents
YTA. You made plans with your gf and her family first. Instead of “offering to reschedule the test,” you should’ve actually cancelled it the moment you realized your mistake.
YTA. You are unemployed and yet you somehow forgot about this dinner and art theatre? Fine. Then you need to cancel or move your test.
Where you messed up: asking your gf if you should cancel and making it be on HER to MAKE you cancel. I assume so you can feel justified about being cranky about it?
Don’t turn this into: but she could have said no etc etc. You pushed the decision off on her but its your fuckup. A lot of people would feel controlling telling someone to cancel plans, and women especially are socialized to sacrifice what they want because a man might have a sulk about not getting what he wants.
Taking responsibility means you cancel your plans yourself. No need to involve your gf or her mom – just move the test.
YTA. And you know it! Just lost major “in-law” points for sure
Let’s be honest, this man isn’t making it to the “in-laws” part of this relationship. The way she reacted makes it seem like it’s not the first time this has happened.
It is a big deal. You want to know why OP? Because it’s a big deal to your gf and her family. Things that are important to the people you care about should be important to YOU. Even if it’s not your cup of tea, the happiness and joy it will bring them should be important enough for you.
Cancel the test and show up with flowers and apologies for her and the family and start taking her feelings seriously. Or you could be stuck in this selfish loop forever that you will always be alone and miserable in, choice is yours OP. YTA
If this is your level of scheduling and following through with commitments, I can see why you are unemployed.
YTA
YTA. The fact you don’t see reason for anyone to upset makes you more of an asshole.
YTA
Get a calendar like a grown-up. “I forgot” is a shitty excuse for “I don’t handle my commitments like an adult, and if there is something better that comes along my agreements don’t matter, either”
YTA. You honor your prior commitment and cancel the thing you scheduled after you already promised to go to the theatre