Was fting my GF (27) after I (23) had just gotten off of a long shift. I usually immediately feed my cat, shower, eat and go to bed because it’s a pretty exhausting and labor intensive job. It’s common for me to stay on the phone with her in the shower and continue to talk about the day.
Except this time was different, I get back and I’m feeding my cat and every time I look away she says she was says she was trying to flash the camera. She then makes a comment about how the one time she does this is of course when I take care of my cat.
I then about to hop in the shower and I’m hurt by this because I take care of him all the time, I don’t like even joking that I don’t take care of him. I must’ve looked sad because she makes another comment about how “wow, great, I made you sad for the sixth day in a row”. Which is again extremely confusing to me because I thought we’d been doing good.
Which brings me to me being in the shower, she had turned off her camera and mic after making that comment. A few minutes had gone by and next thing I knew the camera was on her face and I could see she was in the living room talking with her mom. Meanwhile I’m just there completely naked. So I quickly hung up.
This has turned into multiple days long argument now, she says it problem how I brought up the issue and how mean I was being.
I feel like she had been being pretty mean leading up to this. When I did bring up how uncomfortable I was there was no acknowledgment for that and simply how she would feel differently about the situation. I also feel incredibly overwhelmed how quickly this all played out.
I’m also frustrated because how else am I supposed to interpret this in the moment? As far as I know on ft if I can see her that usually means they can see you. There’s also no way to turn volume all the way off. So of course I’m going to hang up when I think that’s what’s happening.
This is not comprehensible.