So I really like this guy from an older section, but mainly because he’s very handsome, Ive never talked to him before or tried to, but I like admiring him from afar, I even stay late during breaks just so I could look at him more.
And I’ve very much expressed this to my friends, whenever he passes by I start violently shaking them and telling him how cute he is, and I kinda do this almost everyday.
But today, I was looking at him again and my friends confronted me about it and told me I was being a creep, and I was giving off stalkerish vibes and told me to leave the guy alone. (Just to be clear, we are still really great friends!)
So, AITA?
YTA – appreciating someone you find attractive when you happen to see them? Perfectly natural and not a problem. Staying late to see him more? Getting a bit creepy now. *Violently shaking your friends* and exclaiming how cute he is multiple freaking times? The Creep Train has left the station and is hurtling at top speed towards Stalker Central.
Yeah that’s a human being. Not a celeb. And even celebs dont deserve that. YTA
YTA and a creep. This is a real human being that has likely noticed this behaviour now. Leave this poor man alone and try to recognize that if someone did this to you, you’d likely be incredibly freaked out.
YTA – Both to the guy if he has noticed it much and to yourself by making yourself seem creepy.
You start violently shaking and telling your friends how cute he is everytime he passes by but never even tried to talk to him and just “admired him from afar”? There’s not a world where you’re NTA, chill out. Telling your friends constantly about how he’s so handsome IS creepy if he doesn’t know about it and it’s happening this often.
Info: are you intensely staring? Has he noticed and does he seem uncomfortable?
There are some people saying YTA, but having crushes and gushing to your friends about it is pretty normal and non problematic imo for high school-aged or even college- aged kids. Idk how many times my friends have shook me with some “omg he looked so handsome today” in college. Like haha ok girl sure ;). As long as they aren’t bothering the crush or taking it to a concerning degree I think it’s pretty harmless to have a crush. Honestly your wording is what makes you sound a little creepy not the actual situation lol.
YTA
All you need to do is ask yourself this one important question.
How would you feel if you noticed a guy doing the exact same thing?? Literally altering his schedule just to stare at you as you walked through campus…. Willing to bet if you noticed a dude stalking you that you’d make a B-line for campus police/proper reporting authority to report him. If it’s not acceptable for a male to do this, it’s equally unacceptable for a female to do it.
YTA. Not for noticing a good looking guy, but-
>whenever he passes by I start violently shaking them and telling him how cute he is, and I kinda do this almost everyday.
This would annoy the hell out of anyone. You have made your point, you think he’s cute. They get it. You don’t need to continue to grab someone and shake them, especially violently, over and over and over again.
I think calling you creepy and giving off stalkerish vibes is over the top, but FFS, keep your hands to yourself.
YTA – even without the creepy stalking part, the “I start violently shaking them \[…\] and I kinda do this almost everyday” alone makes you the asshole. You sound exhausting to have as a friend.
YTA
If you ade rearranging your schedule just to stare at someone then yes your friends are right. You are absolutely giving off stalker vibes and likely the person you are staring at has noticed you and is very uncomfortable.
YTA – flip the story and have a guy constantly staring at you, staying longer just to catch a glimpse of you, being weird around friends whenever he sees you ….
Yeah. Creepy as fuck. I know this is Reddit so the word “normal” doesn’t always apply, but just **be normal** about it. You have a crush. Big whoop.
YTA because if the situation was reversed you would be saying the guy is a creep and you feel unsafe .
Just say hello