I have been waking my sister for months for her work since she does not wake up to her alarm. ( she closes the alarm and sleeps back after). I offered to wake her up for her work so I kept calling her up atleast three times everyday for to make sure she is woken up enough to go and prepare for work. Lately I start to feel very annoyed as she was not waking up and closing her phones voice off when I called, leading me to call her repeadetly 3-5 times enough for her to wake up.
After seeing my annoyed expression, she became very hurt, saying that I asked to do that and if I said this before she would not relied on me. The case is I am used to waking her up for work but after she ignores my calling for to sleep more, I am getting angry at it.
She says she does not remember doing that, today especially she said her phone was away from her reach but I can hear my phone call voice shutting down after seconds. Making me the liar in the situtation as she says that, which makes me hurt. I understand she is working in a long taxing work, she says that she cant even feel her body and can’t keep up with everything. When she says it like that I feel bad ( I am a student and I generally spend my time in the home and I am a morning person.) So I usually would be awake those times, I still make alarms to myself to wake her up. It feels like atleast I can do that. But I can’t help but feel mentally tired after the argument especially.
After the little argument I said that I will not wake her up as she should get up with alarms as it would be the best desicion for us.
I feel hurt in general, like it was my fault to offering her that but I did not expected to keep calling her to wake her up. Am I the asshole for saying that I will not help her anymore?
NTA. Sister needs to have some natural consequences of her inaction. You tried and it backfired. Time to step back and let reality happen. ✌🏼
nta. she sounds like she may benefit from a Clocky. the alarm is impossible to sleep through bc it’s different everyday + it runs away so you have to go find it to turn it off. it got me through undergrad.
NTA but stop waking her up.
If she’s old enough to get a job then she’s old enough to keep a job.
She can put her phone on other side of the room, set multiple alarms, work it out.
I have 9 alarms for the morning. Two to wake me and the rest to keep me on track. It’s insane to some people but it works for me.
NTA. Your sister is an adult. She needs to get herself up for work. If she shuts off her alarm clock, she needs to set her phone alarm 10 minutes later and keep her phone across the room. If she gets out of bed to shut that down too and goes back to sleep, that’s on her.
NTA – stop doing it. Problem solved.
Nta. I have an app Alarm Clock Xtreme. Lots of different settings to help you wake up. Input the string on the screen, scan a qr or bar code, and my personal favorite before I was treating my sleep apnea… Math problems. Lots of customization options so you can get the just right amount of support you need to wake up.
ESH
You volunteered for the job, and then are annoyed that you have to do it. It doesn’t sound like it’s something she ever asked you to to, nor is she annoyed at you when you fail to wake her up.
>After the little argument I said that I will not wake her up as she should get up with alarms as it would be the best decision for us.
So this is the best outcome for everyone. It’s your sister’s responsibility to get herself to work, not yours. Let her be an adult, and suffer the consequences if she fails to get to work on time.
NTA. Not your problem. Stop doing it and let her fend for herself
Buy her an alarm clock, set it up across the room so she has to physically get up to turn it off, and tell her she’s on her own, you very specifically remember not being her mother. She’s gotta grow up and take some responsibility SOME time.
That’s what I came here to say. Sister needs to grow up.
> ~~Buy her~~ Tell her to buy an alarm clock
Fixed that for you
She has to put her alarm out of reach, so she has to get out of bed to stop it. That’s the only thing that worked for me (when I was a teenager!).
NTA you didn’t ask to do that. You offered it out of your kindness
Just stop OP – not your problem. NTA