I’m most definitely the asshole, but I just need get this out of my system. My friend (let’s call them Dash) had been asking me and another friend (lets call this friend AJ) to play a horror game (game is Pone) for them. The reason why Dash wanted us to play it for them was because they were to scared to play it themselves. The two of us agreed and bought the game. RD decides that they actually wanna play it with us along with a third friend (Twilight).
So we all start playing the game. Dash is instantly terrified and so is Twilight. I’m snickering, having fun learning the game and it’s silly looking monsters, when Dash asks to pause the game. They said they were too scared and were shaking from how scared they were. So we stand there in the lobby waiting for Dash and Twilight to search up each of the monsters, so they won’t be scared. It’s starts being less fun now that they are reading out loud what each monster does while AJ and I stood around in the lobby waiting for them. The game, to me, felt less fun now because I don’t get to experience the monsters and figure out their mechanics. It takes them about twentyish minutes for them to figure out the monsters.
I tell them that I feel like searching up the monsters before a game drains the fun of it. That the whole point of the horror game is to figure it out along the way through trials and effort. That’s the whole reason games like Pone or Lethal Company are scary. Because of the whole unknown part of the game when you first start. They call me a masochist and that no one likes playing horror games when they know nothing about the game. That I’m weird and not normal for wanting to experience the monsters first hand. To be blunt, I thought that was stupid and called them wussies. If no one likes horror games that throw you in without knowing what kind of monsters there are, then why are they so popular nowadays? I was also starting to feel annoyed that I was the one who kept having to finish the missions.
At some point, AJ’d ‘e’ button stopped working mid game. I then make a joke (though it most likely didn’t sound like a joke) that it was fine since I’m the one who does the missions. They all go quiet and call me rude before killing me in game. When we’re back on the first day, I just go afk and listen to them play. After the first day is over, Dash tells me to not play if I don’t want to. I say okay and leave the game. Now I’m here feeling bitter and guilty for not having fun like they were (I also noticed that after I left the game and call, they started playing lethal company right after. So now I’m feeling even more upset for not getting invited to join them).
Usually when we play horror games, they had already done there research of the game beforehand. They get know the game beforehand and I get to experience it firsthand while we play. It’s just this time, that did not happen. I don’t know. I’m just salty and upset, and need to get this out of my system before I get extra salty.
I hate that I know these are names from My Little Pony; for that alone, and this wall of text, YTA.
My bad
Honestly, it just sounds like different playstyles clashing. You enjoy going in blind, they need to prepare so they don’t freak out. Things escalated because everyone was frustrated, but it doesn’t really feel like anyone was trying to be mean on purpose just bad communication all around.
No assholes here or whatever it is, it sounds like you and your friends were just getting frustrated and shouldn’t play horror games together. Sure calling them wussies was unkind and not inviting you to play the other game was also inking but not asshole territory
Sorry but ESH. There were so many ways to fix this before it became an issue.
First, you could have SAID when they started talking about it, “hey wait, I don’t want to hear anything I want to be surprised, can you go to another chat or dm me when you’re done so I can rejoin?” You didn’t have to start off by criticizing how they enjoy the game, and then they got defensive and criticized you back. Now everyone’s in a bad mood. Why did you sit there and listen if you didn’t want to?
Second, again, you didn’t go “hey can one of you do this mission?” You still decided to be passive aggressive about it and call them out on how they were playing, because it wasn’t what you wanted. I’m sorry but if you play with people who you know are actually scared during horror games, you know you’re gonna have to carry them sometimes. It’s not like that should be a surprise. You’ve got the fearless leader, the one who looks at everything just in case, the one who carries too much, and of course… The van princess.
You were clearly in a bad mood over all of this and took it out on them, and they returned your energy. All y’all were rude to each other, tbh. It’s a video game, sometimes things get heated, and it’s okay for everyone to need a bit to cool down. It’s pretty messed up they chose to play another game you all enjoy without even offering for you to come switch with them, but you also chose to leave. If someone is in a bad mood and leaves, I’m gonna consider reaching out but I’ll probably give them space to cool down.
In the end it’s all kind of silly. It’s a game. It’s supposed to be fun for everyone involved. It’s not fun when you dig at each other about how you don’t like what they’re doing in the game instead of communicating what you don’t want.
But friendship is magic, so I’d calm down and then rejoin the group and make up.
You’re definitely right. I should have definitely voiced my opinions or deafen before they started talking about it. I couldn’t add this due too the aita 3k policy, but they had been playing the game before they had asked me to join. I assumed that they had done their research before asking me to join like they usually do. It’s obvious now that I shouldn’t have assumed after they paused the game.
Thank you for the feedback, and for reading my petty rant about a silly pony game.
NAH, I think it’s just about incompatible play styles. You can work this out together, or just not play these games together anymore.