Hi, for some background info im 19f and so is my best friend. We’ve been friends since childhood.
However, in highschool, while covid was happening we lost contact for a bit. She was pretty rude to me, always commenting about my body, looks, etc. so i stopped talking to her for a while. But i never really told her how she made me feel, just grew distant.
More context in the beginning of highschool I had an awkward phase. Im skinny, i had bad acne, and was goth lol so you can imagine i was getting teased a lot.
Nowadays we are really close, and she has become really insecure about the weight shes gained and the skin problems shes having. I try to reassure her, but then she says things like "at least im not flat, sorry!" Or "at least i dont wear makeup like you!" like an obvious diss to me for no reason. She especially does this when we are talking about guys we like. It makes me wanna talk shit back but i feel like i cant. I understand theres a difference between fatshaming and skinny shaming, so i keep my mouth shut in those conversations but she did make me very insecure about my body in highschool, never apologized, and still insults me to this day. Would i be the asshole for saying something back? Nobody is perfect looking, and its a low blow, but i want her to know how it feels to be degraded by someone who is supposed to be your best girl friend.