We were outside of class and we were talking about cars or something when a girl sits down near near us, also waiting for class. This girl was heavily into me a month or so back, (prolly still is a lil bit), and i used to be into her like half a year ago. When he sees her, he asks me: “Hows your girlfriend doing?” And i say i dont have one cause i dont have one. I rhought this was just a stupid joke but then he ouright says: “You still into that classmate?” (he doesnt say her name thakfully just that classmate) Like wtf??? Shes literally right next to us btw, so i say what classmate and change the topic to like watches or something, we go inside and i ask him if id done anything to him, i explained the situation and apparently he had “not noticed her” and that i was being “too sensitive”. Im friends with that girl also btw so its not like it doesnt matter. Ive noticed hes done this atleast 2 times before, asking stupid questions about relationships out loud when shes nearby
NTA. But neither is your friend.
He’s trying to be your wingman, he just has no clue what hes doing
Sounds like your friend is just not reading the room. Some people take longer to learn how to do that. In the future give that friend a code word so he knows to change the subject. I don’t think he did it on purpose so I wouldn’t be mad. Your friend is just young and dumb.
I second this as I’ve had a few friends like this over the years. One of them was like this because she was born with her foot in her mouth and had zero ability to pick up on the cues that she was saying things she shouldn’t be. Another one actually did have motivation to make you feel uncomfortable but not realizing how far she was going or thinking about possible repercussions of her actions.
NTA.
Your friend however is being pushy. He’s trying to get you and the girl to figure it out and start dating. He likely thinks after months of the two of you not communicating, only his intervention will make it happen.
Either talk to the girl about it. Or tell your friend that you are simply not in a place to start dating, and trying to force the issue is only going to lead to hurt feelings.
Im starting to think im in a healthy place with her, shes acting less and less flirty and i say we’re more like friends now.
The tell your friend you don’t need a wing man, that you have no intention at this time of dating the girl, but him making comments is only going to get in the way of you and the girl staying friends. Sometimes friends need clearer hints to get it.
Grow some balls, if you know she’s into you and you’re into her then take the next step. Your friend is just helping to expedite the process and hopefully you’ll appreciate it later.
Grow some eyes, i said i was into her half a year ago, not that im into her now