So the story is that I’ve been really exited for stranger things s5. My whole family were except for my brother who was just watching it for the sake of ig. Keep in mind we all did want to watch it but he was the least enthusiastic about it. We even planned out a "party" with snacks and demogorgan shaped pizzas.
It started with the actual planning of the party where me, my sister and mum were planning different foods we could make like pizza brownies and choc strawberries. Because we wanted to do the party (and bc we started our rewatch a little late) we had to wait about 2 week after s5 released to watch it. Roughly a week b4 we did, I went to a family gathering after trying to avoid spoilers online. My brother and 2 of my cousins were there and only one of them had watched all of s5 and the one cousin who hadn’t started a convo about it pretnding to have seen it. Eventually they started giving "fake spoilers" directed to me. My brother didnt care about the spoilers bc idk why but he decided to blurt out the most important one -SPOILER WARNING- which was Will getting super powers, and then acting like it was a fake spoiler. What he didnt know was that I had seen a video on tt about his powers which I didnt watch fully and only got half of the spoiler and when he blurted it out , I knew it wasn’t fake and was very much a real spoiler. And because I knew that he said a real spoiler I quickly went upstairs to avoid them. I was there alone for about 5 mins thinking to myself that if my brother was willing to shout out that spoiler then there was nothing stopping him from shouting others. Then my cousin ran upstairs shouting a fake spoiler but in my mind it could easily have been a real one aswell. So what I did was I walked to my house which only like a 5-9 min walk and juat stayed rhere and refused to answer any callsfrom them. Then a couple days after that my family and I were all carefully talking about spoilers and I had mentioned that my brother gave me one and he replied no I didnt. He then gave me a much less important spoiler but still a spoiler about a scene. After that day I’ve been in a really bad mood bc I got mabye the most important spoiler and a mini one from my own brother and everytime I mention it i express my dissatisfaction with the whole situation. Fast forward about a week and I’ve finally just watched the last episode and watched my dad get a huge shock on his face when he found out. I looked at my sister who had also been spoiled from a different source and said to her that I wish I could’ve reacted like that but I was stupid enough to say but I couldn’t bc of my brother. And now he and my mum are saying I should just get over it and its not that big of a deal but I think it is and that I should have every right to be pissed off at him. However my mum says its over and done with and that she cant shout at him everytime it gets brought up which I never told her to do btw. So, am I the asshole for still being pissed off
Your frustration makes sense. You set up a whole experience with your family, waited weeks, dodged spoilers, and your brother casually detonated the biggest twist right in front of you. That isn’t “just a spoiler” it undercuts the payoff you spent time building toward.
Being irritated is reasonable. Staying irritated forever wouldn’t help you, but you’re not wrong for feeling let down. Your mum’s “get over it” is more about wanting household peace, not about whether your reaction is fair.
You’re not the one in the wrong here. You’re just the one who cared the most.
I accidentally spoiled the end of “Citizen Kane” to a 90yo man. The look on his face just about killed me because I really really really hate spoilers & doing it to other people.
*However,* dude lived most of his 🌟 entire damned life 🌟 without seeing it. He should have had zero expectation learning about Rosebud outvin hltge wild. “I’ve been meaning to” or “I couldn’t find time” does not fly, no matter how old you are.
If OP was really that ditzed to watch ST s5, they would have made the time to do it. They in the F-O stage of F-A. Time to be zen 🧘
NTA.
Your brother is literally harassing you with spoilers. Dude doesn’t know to just chill out so he’s gonna mess with everyone’s mojo. Not cool.
NTA, I’m really sorry they ruined it for you. That’s messed up. I’m not someone who tends to take even my favorite shows very seriously so I guess I can sorta understand why they might’ve assumed it wouldn’t be as big of a deal as it was, but you clearly communicated that to them (as if the themed party wasn’t enough “proof” already—cool idea with the demogorgan shaped pizzas btw, that’s really creative! you’re clearly a much better cook than I am haha.) I’m sorry your mum is being so invalidating too, and you weren’t stupid at all to point that out, it’s the damn truth—and if it bothers him to much to hear it, he should’ve thought about that before being such an asshole in the first place.
Nta, your brother is an asshole. You gotta get even. Find something he truly enjoys and start spoiling it for him. This is the only way.
NTA. Abso-fuck1ing-lutely NOT! This is one of my BIGGEST pet peaves.
Some shows are so big it’s nearly impossible to avoid all spoilers, ST falls in that bucket. The longer you wait the more will be spoiled so I say YTA for being angry. You are the one that didn’t watch it and be honest, you knew your brother couldn’t be trusted so you have no-one to blame but yourself.