I live with two other roommates in a 2b2b apartment, and they take the two rooms while I take the living room. The roommate A living in the master bedroom is very quiet and is barely home, the one I have issues (roommate B) with is the one I share a bathroom with.
B has very questionable living habits. She throws food into the toilet and doesn’t even use the toilet cleaner, also throws her vacuumed dusts into the toilet, literally I don’t know what she HASNT thrown in there. At first I thought it was a cultural thing since she’s an international student, but as time went on her behaviors started to get even crazier.
In recent months she’s been staying awake in her room until 4-5am. I know this because for some reason she keeps her toothbrush and skincare in the cabinets outside her door and slams them close when she either needs to take them out or put them back in. I can hear all this clearly because I’m in the living room, and lost sleep because of this. Now I get she also pays her side of the rent so she can do what she wants, but there should be a basic amount of respect for others.
Anyways, the noise started to get extreme when she started to vacuum at 2am and then proceed to shower at 3-4am. Her showering would’ve been alright if she wasn’t blasting her music in the bathroom. And before I get flamed for not saying anything, I DID tell she to keep it down. But after saying it so often I stopped because I’m not her mother. She only stopped when the downstairs neighbors started to complain and messaged me to tell her to stfu. She got defensive but wouldn’t even come out of her room when they came upstairs to complain. I had to apologize and this girl only came out after they left, and said they were crazy people. I didn’t say anything because I was too tired and had work the next day.
I got to my final breaking point when I got startled awake at hearing pans slamming around and oil crackling. I went out and confronted and asked her why she’s cooking in the middle of the night and she started laughing and said she was hungry. She just stood there laughing and kept repeating the same thing but I didn’t let her have it and told her to just “fucking stop”. I crashed out so hard I started to slam the bathroom door close when I need to use it and ignored her whenever we had to pass by each other. I just couldn’t comprehend how someone could live like this in a shared apartment, in all my years living with others she is by far the worst one I lived with. But at the same time I also understand she doesn’t have to abide by rules since it’s technically not illegal. So AITA to just told her to stop doing these things in the middle of the night?
TDLR: roommate is loud every night to the point neighbors came to complain. I crashed out and told her to stop though she technically isn’t doing anything illegal. AITA?
This is behavior that someone using amphetamines exhibit.