I 18F and My Coworker 19F got into a big argument last week and I was just wondering AITA for going off on her once and for all.
Me and My Coworker (Who I’ll call Emily to protect her identity) have been friends for 3 months.
Backstory:We worked together for 2 years and never spoke because we were never stationed together. (We work in a nursing home in the kitchen, so we have certain positions). One day we were put in Bistro together. We talked for the first time and I found out we had a few of the same common interests , after that conversation I planned to ask her for her number. Next week comes by and I ask her for her number. She gives me it and right after that, we began texting everyday for hours. I felt like it was a little overwhelming because i felt like I couldn’t get a break from her. She opened up to me about a lot of personal stuff that happened to her and I tried to sympathize with her. We hung out twice outside of work, she came over my house and we baked cookies and watched a movie. After that she left. The second time we hung out was when we exchanged Christmas gifts which were idea. The following 2 weeks, we would plan hangouts and then she’d suddenly cancel on me blaming her mental health. That didn’t come across to me as a red flag. However, the day before the superbowl she texts me and tells me she’s going to Vanessa Super Bowl party. (Vanessa is one of my old friends, who I’m no longer friends with and she knows that). I told Emily I didn’t know her and Vanessa were friends. Emily mentioned that her Vanessa have been getting close recently and that she has thought about going to church with Vanessa.
forward to recently:
I’m in the dish room, wiping down small sliver carts. There’s 5 small sliver carts and 1 large sliver cart. Uryah walks in and walks over to the dryer, she opens the dryer and puts the clean clothes on a large sliver cart I was planning to use. I moved the clean clothes to a smaller cart. After I get done moving them, she turns around and says “I’m using that cart.” In a rude tone
“No, I need to use it.” I reply, raising my voice
“Use it for what.” she says, in a rude tone.
“I’m using it to breakdown carts and put dirty dishes on, you can use the smaller cart for your clothes.” I say raising my voice.
“Girl, who’d you think you’re talking to.” She says, in a sassy rude tone.
“Im talking to you.” I say
We started arguing back and fourth a little bit after that, my supervisor walks over to her and pulls her side and talks to her. I continue to wipe down sliver carts and watch him talk to her because I didn’t want to go somewhere else where she could follow me.. She walks back over to me and argues a little and i told her “im going to call my mom” and she says “do it”. I call my mom, she calls my work and explains the situation. She got us both sent home. Now I have to write a statement letter for my work.
Not reading this teenage drama.
YTA
I’m confused what the first half of this story has to do with anything?
You….called your mom? Seriously? Like…you had your MOM intervene at your job??
This is junior high drama for some legal adults but YTA for calling mommy FOR WORK DRAMA.
YTA
No idea what the first half has to do with the story. This is petty teenage drama but if I’m going to answer seriously you should’ve politely asked and explained why you needed the large cart and she didn’t instead of just taking it. She’s not a mind reader, how should she know you were planning to use it?
……What?…..
YTA. “I’m gonna tell my mom!” Really? 18 y.o. is pretty big to be calling mama to intervene in a minor disagreement with a coworker. Someone else uses an unused cart and you jerk it away without explanation because you had intended to use it, and when she objects you raise your voice to tell her to use a smaller cart? You say HER tone is sassy and rude but forget to characterize yours? “She got us both sent home.” You don’t seem to comprehend your responsibility for creating this big drama over nothing. You’d better hope your “statement letter” is a better self-defense than the one you offer here.
ESH —-calling your mom to solve a workplace cart argument is a plot twist HR probably didn’t expect.
YTA, you’re the problem. Your post having so much about Vanessa and other things that have nothing to do with the argument proves that you moved her clothes without asking her about it first was bc you were already harboring some anger that you were waiting to be able to let you.
But I’m really confused as to why you called your mom….AND why your mom called up there. You need to grow up a bit.
You’re 18…. You called your mom …. What? 😂😂😂😂😂😂
YTA. Did you expect her to read your mind? You were the one who was raising their voice by your own account. And calling your mother to intervene with a work issue is mind boggling.