My spouse has been having bad neck and shoulder pain, and had a chiropractor appointment relatively early this morning for it. They also work late nights and have trouble sleeping.
This morning they woke up at 8:55 for the (9:55) appointment and decided to sleep another 5 minutes. At the end of that, I checked in with them again to start getting up. They were very tired and said they weren’t sure they were going to make it; I said they could sleep longer (another half hour, ish, because it only took 10 minutes to get there, giving them \~10min to get ready). They said they just needed to sleep in much more than that.
The office doesn’t charge for cancellations (or no shows). Still, I called the office to ask if they had any later appointments, explaining that my spouse was in a lot of pain but also needed to sleep more. They were only open until noon but offered a 10:25 appointment. I accepted the later appointment and didn’t tell my spouse (even though they probably weren’t back asleep yet).
I then woke my spouse at 9:55, telling them I’d found a later appointment (and it was in half an hour).
They were extremely frustrated that I’d moved the appointment unbeknownst to them and woken them up again for it; all told they only got maybe 45 minutes more sleep, when they’d wanted a minimum of an hour but really as long as needed until they felt ready to wake up (on their day off).
NTA. Your spouse is acting like a child.
Yup he is acting like a kid. If he wants to be in pain and miss appointments to get better let him.
Also if he chooses this, don’t help him out until he acts in a way to get better.
How did you come to the conclusion that OPs partner is male?
Yeh hope they don’t bitch and moan about their pain after this. I wouldn’t want a bar of that
NTA. The chiropractor appt was to address his neck pain, so you were trying to help him in the long run.
Nta. Your spouse needs to handle their own stuff. Why are you responsible for making appts and waking them up. They’re an adult and should be handling things on their own.
NTA
Next time let them suffer with their own choices.
“I need my spouse to wake up so I can send them to the spine-damaging quack.”
Go to an orthopedic doctor, a physical therapist, or a licensed massage therapist in that order of preference.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC1905885/
NTA, but honestly, from now on, take NO MORE responsibility for your partner’s appointments etc.
You’re NTA for trying to be accommodating. But he’s the AH for being mad that you accommodated him.
Therefore, leave it up to him from now on. The Dr office might not charge for no shows, but they could very well refuse service because your spouse has stood them up once too often.
His appointments. His alarm clock. His responsibility. Either get to the Dr on time or face the consequences.
It’s. Not. Your. Responsibility.
ESH. He’s an adult. Let him handle his own appts.
“Chiropractor”
This whole situation could have been avoided by not patronizing quacks.
NTA, but your spouse needs to learn to manage their own appointmens. Even if the office doesn’t charge for no shows, it’s still disrespectful to just no call no show and waste peoples’ time (despite the fact they’re quacks).
Which leads me to my next points – chiropractors are dangerous quacks and your spouse needs to see an actual doctor before they end up with a stroke or spinal injury.
Chiropractors are terrible. Everyone who goes for neck pain gets their neck cracked which can cause a stroke and kill you. They need a real doc and probably a pt referral.
Aside from that, spouse isn’t a child. If they want to miss their appointment then let them miss. It’s one thing to wake them up once. And to even ask if they want to be woken up again if they fall back asleep. But otherwise, let them be and accept the consequences.