When I was at university I had a close friendship group with the people I lived with. There were 4 guys and two girls.
We all planned to go on holiday together to celebrate finishing but that was in 2020 so it didn’t go ahead due to the pandemic.
We’re all from different cities and have different schedules and commitments so it has been impossible to all get together.
One of the guys made a group chat and mentioned us all going on the holiday and said we should do it this summer. We all agreed and started looking at hotels, hostels, airbnbs etc.
I told my gf what we were planning and she asked if she was invited. I said on since it was just the friendship group and no one is bringing their partners.
She said she found it weird I was going on holiday without her and that she thinks she should be invited. I said no again and explained again what the trip was for.
She repeated that she thinks she should be coming or that I shouldn’t be going but I just told her there’s nothing wrong with going on holiday without your partner.
She said I was being disrespectful towards her by going on holiday with other women.
AITAH for not inviting my girlfriend on holiday?
NTA at all, couples don’t have to do everything together, and I’d be annoyed as the other friend if someone brought their partner even though it’s a friends trip.
NTA but I do find it a red flag from your partner. Does she often show jealous behaviour?
Eh, I think it is a little weird, it’s 6 years since 2020 and you aren’t going to bring your partners? Maybe I just don’t understand the dynamic. However I think I might be a bit taken aback if it were me. However I would not want to go if no one else was bringing their partners because that would also be weird. She mentions the women though, she’s likely overreacting about that part, that is just jealousy. I don’t really think you are an asshole but neither is she for feeling hurt about it.
May I ask why it’s weird? From my thinking, if they live in different cities and had different schedules, it’s likely they haven’t met each other’s partners. And I feel like there’s no reason someone shouldn’t be able to go on holiday with friends without their partner.
People go on holiday with their friends. It’s perfectly normal. I’d be very weirded out by anyone who had a problem with this.
So, do you and your partner never go on holiday without each other? If so, can I ask why?
NTA, If no one is bringing their partners. You’re allowed to go on a trip with your friends. Bringing GF would likely change the dynamic.
I’ve seen this one before, quite recently
NTA
You don’t say how long you’ve being going out with your girlfriend. It’s understandable that she wants to accompany you both she can’t take “no” for an answer and she’s making it really weird accusing you of potentially being unfaithful to her. She, like many, are learning relationship advice on social media and it’s terrible advice.
soft nta. i get why she feels left out, but that doesn’t mean she automatically gets an invite to everything.
Wasn’t this posted yesterday or the day before or something? Was it reposted because you didn’t like that people pointed out you were being super defensive in the comments and your comments were heavily down voted?
This isn’t a romantic getaway. It’s a friends’ trip. Friends that it sounds like she doesn’t know. How long have you been dating? Have you guys been on holiday together? With friends/other couples?
If the others were bringing partners, I’d understand her annoyance, but you said no one is.
NTA.
This is a copy of an older post, word for word. YTA.
Nah.
Every person has their own boundaries in relationships.
For some people they don’t mind it if their partner goes on holiday without them.. and that’s great.
Other people do not like that… and that’s great too.
You can do whatever you want because it’s your life.
But if I were her I would be clocking out.
NTA it’s reasonable to go on a friend holiday. You don’t have to be joined at the hip. My OH goes on trips with friends fishing, gold panning, metal detecting. I’ve been on several city breaks in Europe with friends. Lisbon is next on the list. Of course we have holiday plans with each other too.