(Sorry if my English it’s not perfect, it’s not my first language)
So basically my bestie organized a whole trip to Japan and I was thinking about going to the Macho Bar in Tokyo as a "thank you". The Macho Bar is basically a small bar where the waiters are young, handsome, muscular boys that also do performances like shirtless push up on you or they make you drink a shot from their biceps etc.
My bestie is very shy so I thought it would have been fun to see her face getting red and I asked to my boyfriend what he thought about it. He said that the idea was funny and he was ok with this, he also joked about it. After few weeks me and my bestie finally went there and the experience was funny and a little bit embarrassing for both of us but definitely a good memory, nothing else. I told my boyfriend about it and he didn’t reply for a whole day. When I asked if something was wrong, he got angry and asked me why I choose to went there, why I didn’t choose a different bar instead and that I had to know that he actually didn’t want me to go. After a very short discussion, he decided to not talk to me anymore and to break up after a year of relationship. I said "But I didn’t break up with you when I found Bumble on your phone" and he got even mad. So…AITA?
NTA. But don’t try to get back together with him. You’re not a mind reader and couldn’t know he didn’t want you to go because he admitted it would funny but didn’t use his words to say “yeah it’d be funny but I don’t want you to go.” Of course no one has the right to tell you can’t go somewhere. Also he’s insecure. And he has double standards.